naej,<p>Learn not to LB o'k ?. Cheki this link To All BS ... A lesson not to LB. I did LB many time until I found out from the recorder that I left it in her car that they are make fun of my LB and of course OM is fueling it. [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] Be at your best behavior then get H for lunch. He still love you and want you to be taken care of. Learn plan A and no LB ....<p>I believe once you stop LB'ed your H will be more open to see you.<p>Take Care and vent in here not LB'ed to your H.

Once again u r so right have been to link, and printed it out in bold. I WILL NOT LB. Just hope with all my heart and soul I have not left it too late and blown it. Hows work still hard at it ? Guess nothing changed in your set-up. Do u never ever feel like giving up?. Horrible day in uk, just going to don waterproofs and take dog, plus dentist this am, recon I deserve to be good to myself after that, Take care. Naej.x

naej,<p>Yes, I have many occation want to throw the towel. A matter of fact I almost did it last week. We put our property on sale and get an offer. I have to reject it and pull it out from the market since I have to file separation to protect the my financial sit. It could mean the end of us.<p>Keep us updated, specially if you go out to lunch w/ H [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] .

IS WAH FOG CATCHING? been doing well(for me) few polite no OR conversations with H,just friendly talk. Yesterday found house I would consider looking at,finally managed to contact H to tell him. We have civilized conversation tells me to get appointment to view and take son with me, He can,t come Sat, will let me know about Sunday (OW b,day) has he forgotten or just playing for time I wonder, maybe not quite the great romance I am led to beleive. Anyway I speak to agent- house already under offer but will arrange a veiwing, then tells me he spoke to my H last wk about this house. H told him It was not suitable (even tho it is only 2minutes drive from where I now live, it is a semi- but as he has been so keen for me to sell our home so he can move on and buy a house for him and OW I assume he would consider anything good enough for boring old me to move into. AM I missing something here, or just getting mixed signals. Felt so shaky when agent told me of his conversation with my H, why is he still lying to me when He insists it is all over between us, NEVER coming back etc. Then the first positive move I make to help him get his wish& He has already blocked it.Now I feel angry, whats the point in me trying to be friends let go, act in an adult honest manner and stop whinging about giving up my home and his kids home, trying to move on when the person I am dealing with my H of 30yrs seems incapable of even speaking the truth over something He tells me HE wants. NOW WHAT??? H has phoned back twice since but I havent picked up ph. to afraid I will end up yelling and accusing him of more lies etc. RSVP ASAP PLEASE. Naej. IS WAH FOG CATCHING?

naej,<p>This is a 'coaster ride, be ready. You have to provide safe place for your H to comeback. This is no LB comes from and you also provide a bit of assurance for the future if H ask you, H will test the water.<p>About OW b'day, you just said it yourself that their romance is not as great as you beleive. You see, we did a lot of assumptions and judgements, and all might be wrong at all.<p>What did H told the agent exactly that make you shaky ?. You have to see BS actions rather than their words. No LB please, just be sweet loving naej that your H remembered [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] .

Redhat God bless u.! My H told the agent he didn't think house was suitable for me and not what I was looking for> He never mentioned he knew about house when I spoke to him about it! Just said to get son to go with me first to veiw then he would get back to me re him coming to seeit. Contacted agent to veiw hose but already under offer, he then told me what my Husbanfd had said. H been ph, several times today but I did not pick up, eventually did and he asked about house I said it had gone, and told him what agent had said he'd said. He pretended indignation and said He hadn't said that and was going to contact the agent and give him a dressing down and change agents.I then asked about his solicitor he said told her not to do anything as we were speaking and sorting things out, I said perhaps best to let them continue as we don,t seem to be communicating too well, and shortly after said goodbye, no screaming etc. But it is so hard to fool someone who knows u all yr life & to convince them U have moved on and r happy etc, I know when he is lying about things (A being the Xception) but then A was never something I considered H wud do Not in my widest dreams.I did say to H that I did not wish to b a party to a feud between him and the estate agentand he must do what he thought best as I had tried to do what He had asked me to, and was now confused, BUT for the life of me I cannot see why an agent wud lie to me after all it's in his own interests to sell my home and find me a new one. No sentiment in business don't they say, and agents must be used to people separating and selling property for them and have learnt how to avoid confrontation. AM I MISSING something. LB seems like giving up, and if u know Spouse so well haw can u decieve them?? I am so despondant. What now. Redhat u r a gem, if your halo needs a polish I volunteer.xxx