Honey,
keep hanging in there. Just curious though how did you find a MB counselor locally? Just lots of calling?

Hangin In, Go to the counseling section of this website, and find the phone number or the email... I think I called Marriage Builders and asked them for some names of people in my city... they were very nice, and got back to me right away... very quickly, I was very impressed, and I am thrilled at the new counselor who is tons better than the one who was willing to work with us on the principles... he actually knows how to do this, and has done it! What a relief, call today! If you still can't find it write me back, and I will look for the phone nubmer tonight... I am having an anxiety ridden day... any who read this pray for me... I am really stressed, as I just need a day of r & r , and I work for an attorney and I have forgotten 2t hings at home,, and lost a ck my wh gave me, and who is telling me what a scatterbrain I am for losing stuff, and he might not give me more money... UUGHH! it is really hard, to be a single mom... sometimes I just want to crawl under the covers and die... I have a great interview tomorrow at a job I could JUST LOVE at the Museum in PR, I am very excited! But the pay is not all that I need, but hey I would love it... anyway...my brain is kicking so fast... have to get my haircut tongiht... and wahat will I do with these kids! AGGH! It is just too much! I know things will get better, I am going to try to let go and let GOd... I will get through this day... here I go on my commute back to work for the 3rd time today... wow! HUGS< HONEY [img]images/icons/blush.gif" border="0[/img]

Honey,<p>I am sorry that your husband feels that way. It would seem he has not totally let go of the relationship. Maybe he just is not thinking right. I haven't experience an affair in my current marriage, but did in my first. This question is for you or the others that posted to your post. What do you think about spouses wanting to "be friends" with members of the opposite sex in general? Some told me there is a fine line in these relationships. Any thoughts on this? Anyway, I don't really know what you can do to prevent your spouse from being friends with members of the opposite sex. But I know that friendship is where is starts and then it just creeps up on you or so it seems and you are involved. Pride goes before a fall ...is SO true!
That is what I am afraid of...my husband has this attitude like it can't happen to him. Thanks-
Take care, Honey.

Hi, I don't think just friends is ok at all... and have always felt that way... well, my H started not feeling that way... and that is how all of this happened... and I am just so hurt...who even knows anymore... <p>Things are going better as I implement plan a... I got taken out last night to a great dinner by my H.. wow, what a suprise, he asked me to go do his thing... which I was oppossed to... but I went, and then.. .he took me to a nice dinner.. WOW ! It is hard to believe.<p>HUGS, HOney