Hi Faith - I haven't posted in well over a week, I think, but I promised to follow you thru Plan B so here I am.<p>First, IMHO, it's OK in Plan B to remind the WS that you still value your marriage, you still love him/her and you're still ready to work on the marriage when they meet the conditions you set forth in your Plan B letter - if you really feel this way. Of course, there's a limit to how much of this you do. A very simple, non-nagging message will do. For example, I simply sign all my messages with: Love always, WAT. 'Nuff said.<p>Secondly, your H's message is - not surprisingly - proof positive that they all are controlled by the same Mothership. This refers to those WSs who left good people like yourself, seemingly oblivious to normal thought processes, hence the alien abduction comparison.<p>Thirdly, you are a good person and you do not deserve ANY of this. You are young and vibrant and you WILL thrive. Even an old fart like me is thriving after the success of Plan A/B. BTW, I will ALWAYS be a little older than Resilient. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Lastly, but not least, a special ditto to BINthereDUNthat.

Thanks, JD and MoM! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>WAT, I feel very special and priveleged to bring you out of temporary hiding [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] . I've been wondering where you were. Hope you're doing ok. Thank you so much for your words. They mean very much to me, especially coming from an old fart - oops - I mean, good friend like you. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] I have much respect for you and the way you're coming through all you've been through. I believe you're right about the plan B love messages. I'm afraid I strayed a little bit from there. He asked too many why's and such (like why I'm dragging it out, etc etc), and I had to explain myself I suppose. [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] Anyhoo... thanks for the encouraging words. I hope that I can believe more and more that it's not my fault, and that I have to let it go. I KNOW it... just not sure if I believe it 100% yet. if that makes sense...<p>thanks all...

Faith - it makes perfect sense and I join you there.<p>Please keep a focus on the far future, where you shall surely thrive. I hope for you the best, that you can restore your marriage, but you know the reality that that may not occur. In that event, please know that your H's affair will follow the well marked path all the way to where it shall end, in memory's unmarked grave of discarded lies.<p>WAT

[img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>You're gonna make it... All of you guys (BSs) are gonna make it through this in one WHOLE piece... That's my continued prayer.