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this is complete insanity. why would anyone encourage lorisue to stick around and take this crap from her husband??? he's only treating her the way she's allowing him to--and will continue as long as she does so. <p>does common sense not prevail on this board?? what is this place that encourages people to stay in such horrible relationships?? <p>i don't find the literature here to be logical. in this day & age a marriage does NOT need to be saved at all costs. Especially if the cost is a woman's self-respect and dignity. <p>i've never seen such subtle woman-bashing before OR so many people so willing to follow blindly such ridiculous advice!!! sure, taking a bunch of CRAP from a cheating husband will keep him around and eventually he may REALIZE how much you really love him, but if he doesn't know that already and is willing to belittle you and your feelings---WHY THE HELL WOULD YOU PUT YOURSELF THROUGH SUCH MADNESS??? <p>this place sounds like a cult. y'all are breaking my heart with this desparate talk. it's sad to see so many people willing to put themselves on the back burner to accommodate a selfish, inconsiderate, manipulative, ignorant [censored] in the name of 'saving a marriage'. UGH!
-----------------------------------------<p>I find your recent post here a little confusing. In
your thread you advocate continued contact instead of no-contact. It seem you think a BS (wife here) should allow her WS (husband here) to continue contact as long as he so desires for his benefit and the OW’s benefit. <p>What you are seeing here is the madness that continued contact will lead to as the WS and OP concoct every imaginable excuse for continuing their affair. Though lorisue’s husbands’ email is rather unusual, his actions and desires are not. The only way he is going to return to this marriage is if he stops all contact immediately. And the only way that lorisue should continue this marriage (IMHO) is if he initiates no-contact immediately.<p>Kittygirrrl, you cannot have it both ways. When there is continued contact OF ANY KIND, the wife is being treated badly by her H.
As for the woman's self-respect and dignity. That has nothing to do with how she is treated. It has everything to do with how she comports herself.