Hi, <p>Welcome to Marriage Builders. This is a good place to come and learn. There are many tools here and a some of the MBers have worked quite hard putting together these tools to make it easier for you to do your vital research so you can get the best of the info here at MB. <p>I have tried to put some of this in one thread so brace yourselves, it will be a long one. Special thanks to OneGoing for posting these threads on the Just Found Out site. Please follow the suggestions here and you will be amazed at what you will learn. It can also help you avoid some of the bad experiences many of us went through before coming here to MB. <p>Here goes:<p>General welcome by Onegoing<p>
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=29&t=000553<p>The people here represent both betrayed spouses and betrayers(waywards) alike and the occasional Other Woman/Man/Person (OW/OM/OP).
All of us are really here to try and build or rebuild our marriages... and we are trying to use principles and concepts that are espoused by Dr. Willard Harley of
Marriage Builders(MB). Sometimes the acronyms are overwhelming... check out a summary of them HERE.
There is a wealth of information here at this site, starting from the Marriage Builder's Home Page.
If you're new to the ideas being presented here at MB start off with Dr. Harley's Basic Concepts.
…… and so much more…. Check this out!<p>
Roll call index – by Onegoing<p>
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=29&t=000555<p>Other useful sites by Onegoing
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=29&t=000558<p>Over 50 sites listed here in subject order.
A few sites often mentioned as useful by forum members.
Please feel free to post a reply so more can be added...
...or contact me at [email]onegoing[/email].
MB Forum member's sites
Marriage & Relationship Resources by Chris (CA123)
Marriage sites
The Marriage Movement
Infidelity.com (#1 Infidelity Support Network)
Dr. Bonnie (Eaker Weil, Phd.), Adultery Buster in Cyberspace
Dr. Chapman's Weekly Topic Archive
Smart Marriages article(Getting Beyond Betrayal)
Exceptional Marriages
Divorce Busting
World Wide Marriage Encounter
Retrouvaille
General Realtionships
Relationship-growth
Relationshipweb
Loving you
Light Your Fire
Affairs/Infidelity/Trust
When A Spouse Is Unfaithful
Article by Dr. James Dobson (June 2000)
Vaughan-Vaughan
Affairs Help
Articles about Affairs (Dear Peggy)
Self Help
Self Help Articles
Communications
Assertive Communication
Anger Management
Anger & Stress Management Communication Skills for Marriages and Relationships in Conflict
Abuse
Dr. Irene's Verbal Abuse Site
Suicide
Suicide Crisis Center... 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)
Suicide and Suicide Prevention
1-800-NEW-LIFE
Loss/Hurt/Pain
Surviving Loss
Help for the Hurting/Joyce Meyer Ministries
BROKENNESS BRINGS BLESSING
Adultery
Adultery & Fornication
Adultery
Biblical Foundation of Marriage
MARRIAGE DIVORCE AND REMARRIAGE
Divorce Recovery
Divorce Recovery Seminar
Depression / Antidepressant Therapies(Cognitive Therapy)
Depression
Intimacy & Depression
Cognitive Therapy
Beck Depression Inventory
Zung Depression Inventory
MidLife Crisis (thanks to scandanavian)
Forum: The Midlife Crisis
Midlife crisis
Midlife and Mid-life Crisis
Midlife Crisis: Why we have them.Psychologists, clergy say there are no quick fixes
Weiner-Davis Midlife-crisis forum
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Dangers of Online Relationships
What They're Not Telling You - Or How to Read Between the Lies!!
Internet Infidelity Prevention, Detection, Advice and Books
Center for On-Line Addiction
Affairs of the Internet
Sexual Addiction
Sexaholics Anonymous
Welcome to SexHelp.com...Dr. Carnes' Resources for Sex Addiction & Recovery
SEX ADDICTION RECOVERY RESOURCES
Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs)
Herpes Simplex
12 Steps to Recovery
Prayers for Each of the 12 Steps
Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a Gift You Give Yourself
The Forgiveness Web
Motivational Quotes
Forgiveness Skills
Motivational Quotes
Lawyer Search
Martindale-Hubbell Lawyer Search
Note: Do a search within your county... look for only "family law" specialists(>80% in divorce/custody/etc.)... make sure they do a lot of "family law committee work"... if they know the judges all the better... You can normally find a few that will give initial counseling free of charge.
USLaw.com (an alternative search site)
Divorce / Children
Should You Stay Together for the Kids?(Time magazine)
Surprising Results of a Divorce Culture
My Divorce Recovery Site
The Beginning Experience Web Page
Father's Rights
Fathers Rights To Custody(FRTC) *warning*... anti-marriage site
Other
Tomorrow Is Not Promised
Midlife Dimensions... a counseling and conference ministry
Enneagram Personality Dynamics
Dealing With Manipulative People
FREE Anonymous e-Postcards to People with the "Problems"
Strang Communications' Forums (Christian forums)
Personality Tests on the WWW
Personality Type changes everything!<p>
noteable posts/thread by Onegoing<p>
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=29&t=000554<p>This is a library of threads deemed by some people of the forum to be of value.
Some of these are from the "Infidelity Archive", and "Read-Only Posts" forums.
If you find any threads that you think are valuable… and you'd like to share it with others… let us know…<p>MB cliff notes by William J:
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=37&t=009007 <p>Some of this info in William J's cliff notes is a repeat of the threads above. But the order of the material makes it easier to research for a particular topic. <p>
Wat’s guide to BS<p>
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=29&t=000940<p>To new betrayed spouses. I hope you are fortunate to find this site early - which means before you have a chance to go too far down the wrong path in dealing with your new challenge.
I'll offer you what I call WAT's Quick Start Guidelines for Betrayed Spouses. Think of it sorta like affair First Aid - not the answers, just something to help in the initial confusion.
This fills a void I think that exists for guidance in the early stages of an affair when most are caught off guard and feel hopeless. This comes from my personal experience and from the descriptions of many other betrayed spouses I have read about for many months. I believe this to be consistent with Marriage Builders principles, but I acknowledge I am an amateur and no one should act on this advice alone.<p>
Plan B & kids<p>
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=37&t=009871<p>
Newer and stronger plan b<p><a href="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=37&t=012560&p=2" target="_blank">http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=37&t=012560&p=2[/ URL]<p>
Links of copies of plan b letters:<p>
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi....cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=37&t=001857<p>Started plan B<p>
http://www.marriagebuilders.com/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=37&t=001006<p>[ February 16, 2002: Message edited by: Orchid ]<p>[ February 23, 2002: Message edited by: Orchid ]<p>[ March 03, 2002: Message edited by: Orchid ]</p>
