I told my FWH upon discovering his A that if OW wanted a man with a $25 a week paycheck and three stepkids that she could have him because I would take his sorry, cheating, weak a$$ to the bank.

I was due to deliver our third baby the day after and was very hormonal at the time.

I also told him that if he left me for her, of all people, that he would lose his children because of her history with drugs and abusive relationships. (She had just left the father of her kids who was crazed and abusive. I felt she had too many issues to be a stepmother to my kids.)

I really did not get angry with the A until she served me with a lawsuit for child support after we separated, even though I was sending her weekly checks for our son. That day I let all my anger that was bottled up blow up unrestrained. Things I said included (forgive the language):

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• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Go ahead and [censored] him and let him [censored] you. You both deserve each other. (The A has been totally emotional).</font></li>
• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Do you think I don't know all the time you were making love to me you were thinking about him?</font></li>
• <font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Six months after the A turns physical you will break up with him. Don't even think about coming back to me.</font></li>

<font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Now she tells me when I said those nasty and mean things was the turning point for her not to continue with the M. Before she had been thinking about reconciliation but now she decided she could not be with someone who did not respect her. My answer? Would you like me to list all the nasty and mean things you have told me since you met the OM?
What I think hurt her the most is telling her twice that I have always admired her as a mother to our son, but that since she met the OP I was beginning to question that. She told me it hurt her and made her feel more insecure.

<small>[ October 20, 2002, 06:12 PM: Message edited by: utterlyconfused ]</small>