<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by RestoringMyMarriage:
<strong>My point, a point that I am not making well I think -- is that because she will share only a bit of her heart, that precludes it from developing into a full blown EA affair.</strong><hr></blockquote><p>
Excellent point!

I think RestoringMyMarriage was quoting MM in the above preposterous rationalization - she didn't MAKE that statement.<p>Hey Honey, when you want to quote someone just click on the quotation marks at the top of the box when you want to reply and it will show the remarks you are responding to as a quotation.<p>[ February 28, 2002: Message edited by: MelodyLane ]</p>

This thread was getting so long, that I started a new one, with a new question, called Just Friends.

MelodyLane, I know... I was trying to point out that she was making a good point with his quote...<p>Sorry for the confusion!!! <p> [img]images/icons/blush.gif" border="0[/img]

Mm,
You sound just like me. I met a man at work and we immediately clicked. I was in denial for a long time…we were just friends I insisted to myself.. It was my husband that made me face the fact that I had fallen in love and had to quit seeing this person. We never touched, but I fell totally and completely in love with him. Even though I love my husband of 21 years, and never fell out of love with him….and am determined to keep my marriage together…in my heart of hearts I think that if this man declared his love for me, I would throw it all away..even though I know that I’d really be much happier with my current husband….and my current life, I think I’d throw it away for the thrill and adrenaline rush…Thank god the OM has a hell of a lot more sense than I have.<p>Luckily, I never fell out of love with my H. But I have been struggling with my feelings since the day I realized that I loved him (nearly two years ago.) When I asked him how he felt about me he said that he didn’t want to interfere with my marriage, that he valued my friendship, enjoyed my company, and was attracted to me but we were both in committed relationships. I didn’t believe that he wasn’t interested in sex, because he never talked about his girl friend and he was always so receptive and kind to me…but he never crossed the line. <p>I was brought up thinking that a man’s objective was to have sex with a woman…so I felt that he had romantic feelings for me. I think I was mistaken.. I think he really did only want to be friends but I couldn’t accept that. <p>I want this man in my life, but I don’t like feeling in love with him…I want to love him as a friend not romantically. We are not seeing or communicating right now…we hope that we can resume a friendship someday, because we really like each other…but I just can’t get my heart and mind in sync. <p>I don’t think you should see this woman until you can get your emotions under control. It sounds to me like you are terribly in love with her and you want to make her happy…even though you don’t want to have sex with her, you are romantically infatuated with her…perhaps those feelings can subside, so you can see her as a friend. <p>I have been trying for 9 months to get this man out of my mind…I even changed jobs…but I still think of him all the time. It’s really, really hard and takes a long time. Good luck!