<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Heartpain:
<strong>BTDT -
I can only assume that since you've spent the last few days taking shots at Sheryl and Peppermint, that it is my turn...</strong><hr></blockquote><p>HUH? I asked a question in an attempt to understand the thinking and feeling behind the statement. Okay so I probably assumed that peppermint was talking about me since I was on the thread in question (Lisa-OW/angeleyes1). I didn't know who else it could have been. Peppermint already said she was not referring to me.<p>Anyway, my question is answered as you all have banded together, as you probably would ESPECIALLY IF an OW attacked one of you in reality. That was my only dumb question. Maybe it was more of a statement than a question as my answer is evident here. What we would do for friends, regardless...<p>I hope you don't feel disgusted by my presence on MB? I can only assume that you did mean me since I did try to look for peppermint on her own (REUNION) thread. I don't know what to do with that? I didn't want to start a whole separate thread calling attention to peppermint's name. To me, that would have been much more inappropriate and disrespectful and offensive.<p>If prefacing my question with saying that I totally respect peppermint's position as a long-time MBer is perceived by you as taking a shot? All I can say is, wow... Cuz I really don't see how that is taking a shot?<p>If saying that I respect nyneve's thoughts but was just trying to pick the brain of a specific person (instead of annoying nyneve) is perceived by you as taking a shot at your friends? Then I can't explain how that was filtered by you in such a negative way??? I can't.<p>We are on the same team, right? MB? At least I'm trying to be. You might beg to differ since I am not a BS, but a former OW endeavoring to affair-proof my marriage. Raised the OC with no contact, who is now all grown up and faring extremely well, considering everything. <p>To me, "my story" is ancient history. I do not identify with that lifestyle, nor I do not post at gloryb, I just try not to forget where I came from and have compassion for BS's and the pain I caused in others' lives back when... I do not feel holier than thou or anyone. I DO know my place here. I see myself as a MarriageBuilder and I am very proud of that. I have familiarized myself with the concepts, Q&A's and articles that I share with others when I post.<p>I don't understand why my questioning is met with so much disdain and sarcasm? I'm really trying to figure out exactly what I did to you, Heartpain? Defend my pal? Act cocky? Talk too much? What? Or, is it simply because I was an OW TWENTY years ago? Is that it? Is it because I have not been on MB for a year yet? Is that it? Is it because I have a "big mouth that cannot be shut up easily?" Wow... Since I was the only one who butted in on the reunion thread to just ask an off-topic question in hopes of getting an answer, I have to guess that means you were talking about me. <p>Maybe I was half-cocked because the timing felt just so personal since I was in the process of recognizing who this angeleyes1 person was. I recognized her tone from the EN board. NOT from gloryb and NOT from a personal e-mail since I don't post my e-mail on here. I thought it was extremely offensive the things she/OW said. I like zorweb a lot so I reacted. But then when I read that long-timers may feel I was being immature because I couldn't ignore it, it made me wonder if the situation was more personal, then what? I don't feel bad for defending my friends and you are seemingly defending your friends when I'm not even fighting??? At least I'm not trying to?<p>Gosh, I am NOT trying to turn anybody off. I hope you don't consider me to be a big mouth. I'm not here to harm and I removed posts that you described as "poisonous."<p>I just figured the best way to get a poster's attention on this huge board was to find a thread where they are likely to be checking in on? <p>Excuse me for living! (okay, okay, that was sarcastic, I take it back)<p>Please believe me, I am not taking shots at you or anyone. Believe me, I KNOW my place here as a person who was a single OW TWENTY years ago. I am not that person anymore regardless of what any of you chooses to believe. So at least give me credit for knowing where I stand with BS's on that issue. I know.<p>No, I have never posted my story because I have a really REALLY terrific marriage with no affairs and we both embrace MB so that might not be such a blessing to BS's in serious recovery and battling triggers all the time, so I just try to remember that. Could be my screenname that bugs you? Oh well, I'm all out of ideas.<p>I would never try to give you advice. And now, I will absolutely hesitate to ask you any more questions. I'm exhausted.<p>The reason why I asked you if you had a brother (trying not to provide too many details) is because I had a former coworker who has an identical twin with your same exact(unique & uncommon) name, with the same spelling and capitalization and everything.<p>No ulteriors, no ill-will, no agenda, no nothing. That is all...<p>[ March 13, 2002: Message edited by: BINthereDUNthat ]</p>
