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Re: MB 'veteran' needs help. Do I stay or do I go?
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Oneday,
Hon, I got confused..couldn't remember where I was..but I kept up with both for the different opinions.<p>Back to this:
While I was in plan A, I would say that this analysis did apply, but not once I went to plan C. Perhaps after we reconciled I began to slip back into the old pattern of reacting to H's conduct more. I had not really thought of that. <p>Delve into this a little. We seem to do really wonderful and when I slip back into old behaviors now (conflict avoiding comes to mind) I decompensate back into the hopeless state..and I think it's because, those old behaviors put me more in the "tit for tat" realm, rather than the more self confident mode.<p>Shoot this is really hard to explain..but the more I feel I direct my life..the happier I am..and him also, because it affects our life. He has commented that being open where he wasn't before has also helped him, and he sees where it has a positive affect on me...so we're reaching the point where we're very aware of how our actions influence without controlling each other.
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Re: MB 'veteran' needs help. Do I stay or do I go?
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Twyla,<p>Thanks for replying again. I will give that some thought. Don't you ever get tired of the self psycho-analysis? I know that I do. Often.<p>Hugs to you,<p>OneDay
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