<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Conqueror:
When we were making love and he was pleasuring me, he would look directly into my eyes, especially when I was orgasming, and tell me how beautiful I was when that was happening. He would ask me to look into his eyes when it was happening. I became more and more comfortable watching him watch me when I was aroused and when I was climaxing.<p>He told me how much it would turn him on to watch me and early on would gently put my hand there with his over it to help me get more comfortable with sharing it with him. He would always tell me specifically how it was turning him on and making him feel when I would touch myself.<p>His open and obvious excitement and verbal affirmation of how beautiful I looked to him the more turned on I got and the more I was able to lose my inhibitions and expose myself that way.<p>His attitude was always one of encouragement and validation, so I felt secure opening up that part of myself to him. He was never demanding about it. It was like he knew how much in the inner sanctum he was and was kind of reverent about it.<p>Very intimate. SF has always been our strong suit together. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Any time my H hears about a solo time of mine, he talks about how much it turns him on to think of it and how he wished he had been there to watch. He DOESN'T say, "Why didn't you wait for me?" He acknowledges my sexuality and how much it arouses him, which of course arouses me. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]
<hr></blockquote><p>Whoa! Now I need a cold shower .. not fair to us D people, Dammit! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ March 14, 2002: Message edited by: Resilient ]</p>

I found this to be a very interesting thread. Hearing mens veiwpoints on BOB. <p>In my case using one has nothing to do with my partner and everything to do about ME. Selfish? maybe... but it's a great stess reliever, something that doesnt require a whole lot of effort. Knowing one's body is a beautiful thing..in learning about my own I was more able to convey what it is that makes me feel good.<p>Peace!

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Resilient:
<strong><p>Whoa! Now I need a cold shower .. not fair to us D people, Dammit! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p></strong><hr></blockquote><p>
Sorry, Jo, just trying to help the guys [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] .<p>I had a conversation with a good friend recently who has had partners in the triple-digit range like my H, but she is female (I'm in the single-digit range). She affirmed what my H tells me, that our ability to connect sexually the way we do is rare and maybe a once-in-a-lifetime thing.<p>She told me this in response to my belief that I could have what I have with my H with a new man in the future because I no longer have inhibitions (never would have guessed that, huh? [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] ) about showing a man how to please me, and I have total confidence in my ability to please a man by having him show and tell me exactly what works best for him.<p>Well, she informed me that I could not count on that, and I figured she was pretty honest about it because she wants me to leave my H. She said that some things you just cannot teach, that in sex as with other things there is sometimes an inborn talent or natural ability that can't be duplicated no matter how much you practice or educate. She equated it with how some people just can't sing on key no matter how many voice lessons they have.<p>She said there is an in-tune-ness with one's body and natural rhythm that she can usually see is there or not by watching someone dance. I guess education and practice can help, but according to her, only a few have that "Olympic"-level natural ability. Gave me a lot to think about. [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img]

Sjustinen,<p>WOW [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] ......that is incredible... and it sounds like your wife is willing to talk about this situation with you and that is the "key." I bet she has lots more little things to share with you......with only one conversation, look what you learned... and then there will be another one, and another one.... and another......<p> [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] You got some pretty honest advise on this subject and those reinactments from Conquerer..... LOL.... they were great, talk about getting anyone's motor going...but that is pure honest love that she shared with you. I pray that you and your wife can achieve that.... if you follow exactly how she described it. If you feel any resistence from her, don't push her. It may take baby steps. <p>One thing that I read in this string and I cannot find it now to quote it, was something about pornography.... and that struck me. Grrrrrrrr!!! I could not find it again to reread it. Maybe I read it in the wrong context, but I want to YELL THIS IS NOT PORNOGRAPHY. It is not pornography. It is something that all of us do. It is human nature. [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>PS..... I am still a chicken to purchase a BOB. My H bought me mine. Even though I am open about it, the thought of someone seeing me walking into an adult store, would make me red.....Oh ya... this is my line if I get the nerve to do it and ever get spotted, "My friend is getting married and I am here to buy some penis pasta for the stag dinner." [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] How is your wife with this?