Warning-my H told a close friend during his affair that "I would NEVER have to go elsewhere for sex, we have a great sex life at home."<p>Truth=he had sex with my former best friend in her car, at her house, made out at our office and was with her IN MY BED. <p>He also was only looking for somebody to 'talk to.' The damage is permanent and while I'm willing to forgive him, the scars will always be there. I believe that almost all affairs start as emotional attraction and eventually lead to sex. In one of the books I read, it said it's almost inevitable, even if you aren't looking for sex out of it. It happens. <p>Just some advice!

I did the same as you JD, when my H and I were separated those 4 months. The only difference being, I couldn't get up the nerve to actually meet any of the men I had been 'chatting' with.<p>Then I started to learn more about this site. Sure, I had been on here when I knew what EA's and PA's were, but it took a few months for things to REALLY sink in.<p>I can look back now, and see that I was getting many of my EN's met by these different men (some were for conversation, others for adoration, etc). But not one of them could meet enough for me as my H could.<p>When that realization hit, something finally clicked in my head. I made the conscious decision to do NO CONTACT whatsoever with ANY of them (one had been a great friend and support to me for over 2 yrs!!!).<p>It really hit me that in order for me to work on me, having ANY kind of relationship with these men was WRONG! WRONG!! WRONG!!! So I just ended it. Some got no contact letters, some didn't. I changed my icq # later too (after recovery started to be honest), and that way I didn't have to worry about contact re-establishing.<p>Within a week or two of ending the contact, I was truly ready for plan B. I felt good about myself again. And I didn't need to get those feelings from someone else. I could do it all on my own. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I admire you for sharing something so personal as your own EA, especially as it is so recent/current. You know what it is you need to do. We're here for you (as always! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] ) to keep you on the right track for YOU.<p>Karen

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Stay strong!

You know we're pretty good with the tough love around here, and sometimes we can be pretty gently with it, but we may start coming down pretty hard on ya if you keep waffling!!! [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]