Give it time, CS. DDay was only a few short (although it seems like an eternity to us BS's) weeks ago. If WH asked to change visitation weekends because OW complained, that's great, big LB on her part. Let them have each other right now, let them be together as much as they want and let the reality of the A feed on itself and destroy whatever feelings they currently have for each other. God is on your side and He will give you the strength you need to get through this!<p>For now, read, read and read some more, there are a lot of great resources out there and continue that counseling for yourself. Study MB principles and come up with a plan on how to improve yourself. Focus on you and the kids, don't worry about WH, let him have his fantasy, there really isn't anything you can do about it right now anyway. Almost anything he says right now can probably be dismissed as fog-ese babble so don't take too much of what he says personally. Most WS's will say the most outrageous things in order to justify the A, I'm sure that most of us have heard almost all of the same lines your WH has or will say.<p>The A will destroy itself, it was created on lies, deceptions and falsehoods, it needs the bubble of secrecy in order to survive. Now that it has been revealed, the bubble has been burst and the A can no longer be as fun as it once was. That doesn't mean it will go away easily, one or both of them may try to hang onto the A with everything they have, but it is a futile battle, it will end, it just has to die on its own, if you try and interfere, you may prolong it.<p>Be strong CS, use this forum to vent instead of WH. The weekend is coming up, what do you plan on doing for yourself and the kids. Go out and have some fun, you all deserve it. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
