ok-can someone please explain how his mind is working? - 10/30/02 12:54 AM
My H has been gone now for 2 days. He had 5 - count them - 5 email accounts, which he told me to check if I wanted. I had all 5 passwords. It was 2 weeks yesterday that he told me that he told the OW it was over. I decided yesterday to just close out most of the accounts. The one that "they" used had a message in it dated the 22nd where she was wondering where he was and that she waited for his call. It had not been opened-or so it appeared anyway. Apparently Monday nights were the night they communicated, so I just left the email account alone and looked again this morning - another email - "It was fantastic hearing your voice last night, etc". He called me at work today regarding some insurance stuff and I asked him if he was still in contact with her. He said no. He seemed upset that she was sending messages and wondered if she was turning into a stalker-type. He talked about if he had her phone number he would just tell her to stop or maybe he should just talk to her husband (there's a thought - oh, I have been having an affair with your wife, but I'm a little tired of it - could you have her stop pursuing me????). However, as he spoke, there was a beeping in the background and he said it was his calling card running out (is that true that they beep like that?) He had 80 minutes on it when he left home Sunday. I am getting so confused and wondering if I am so desperate to believe him that I am being blind again. And what would be the point of lying to me this time anyway - he wouldn't have to look at me - he doesn't have to see me. What consequences would there be? He doesn't have to come home for weeks on end if he doesn't want to when he is an over the road driver. I don't understand the mindset here. Would it make it less exciting if I knew? Maybe I am just blowing it out of proportion. I am a mess now. I think I blew my blessing that I had managed to get from staying strong in this. I would appreciate some insight into this. Maybe I will never understand. Sorry this is so long. Kelli