I think I have had enough - 01/21/03 03:18 PM
I think I have finally realized that my marriage is over; I know I was pretty slow to come to this conclusion. This whole situation is just sick; there is no other way to describe it. One day, I pray that my wife will wake up and realize just how bad she screwed up her life and our marriage. But for now she is still living the fantasy and will not give up the OM.
I read an email from her yesterday to the OM saying that she was sorry that she had not called him back sooner but she would call him tomorrow (while she is at work). At the end of the email she said that she was going to take a shower and she was going to pretend that he was in there with her. Ok, that really hurt. After that Plan A went out the window, I told her that I knew everything (no specifics); I knew they were still in contact etc. She obviously denied everything so I went upstairs for the rest of the night. She came up later and got her things to sleep in the other room.
So here I am, doing something I never thought I would do; I have called a lawyer and I have an appointment next week (I am seeking full custody if the child is mine, which I am pretty sure he is). I still love my wife and I know we could rebuild our marriage if she would give up the A and come out of the fog. But I cannot continue to live this way, honesty and faithfulness are too important to me, I deserve better.
God bless all of you. I have gotten a lot of advice and help from this site and I pray that you all have better luck than I did.
Joe
I read an email from her yesterday to the OM saying that she was sorry that she had not called him back sooner but she would call him tomorrow (while she is at work). At the end of the email she said that she was going to take a shower and she was going to pretend that he was in there with her. Ok, that really hurt. After that Plan A went out the window, I told her that I knew everything (no specifics); I knew they were still in contact etc. She obviously denied everything so I went upstairs for the rest of the night. She came up later and got her things to sleep in the other room.
So here I am, doing something I never thought I would do; I have called a lawyer and I have an appointment next week (I am seeking full custody if the child is mine, which I am pretty sure he is). I still love my wife and I know we could rebuild our marriage if she would give up the A and come out of the fog. But I cannot continue to live this way, honesty and faithfulness are too important to me, I deserve better.
God bless all of you. I have gotten a lot of advice and help from this site and I pray that you all have better luck than I did.
Joe