Don't You Worry About A Thing...You Will Be OK - 09/02/03 03:23 PM
I have just got to post this today. Many of you know that I have been around for a few years, and have stayed to offer some hope to the new folks. Relationships are part of the field I worked in before I stayed home with the kids.
I told you before that I have read and read on this topic. I have followed many stories from the point of view of BS and WS as well as read a great deal on the OW.
OK, my opinon, for what it's worth (OK, my 2 cents), the relationship with the OP falls apart. Everyone suffers, but usually the married couple survives with a few scars, unless the BS chooses to move on. It is a matter of stamina. If the BS can take it, the marriage can survive even the worst of affairs. There comes a point (Plan B) where some WSs have to be pushed off the fence, but usally they find the OP not the one of their dreams.
I had read the less than 3% of those relationships survive, but have truely seen this played out in many cases.
Keep your heads up high today. The ball really is in your court. I know that every case is different, but really, this is the way it usually goes.
One other thing, watch out, they frequently keep seeing the OP after d-day. Takes a little while for things to calm down.
I told you before that I have read and read on this topic. I have followed many stories from the point of view of BS and WS as well as read a great deal on the OW.
OK, my opinon, for what it's worth (OK, my 2 cents), the relationship with the OP falls apart. Everyone suffers, but usually the married couple survives with a few scars, unless the BS chooses to move on. It is a matter of stamina. If the BS can take it, the marriage can survive even the worst of affairs. There comes a point (Plan B) where some WSs have to be pushed off the fence, but usally they find the OP not the one of their dreams.
I had read the less than 3% of those relationships survive, but have truely seen this played out in many cases.
Keep your heads up high today. The ball really is in your court. I know that every case is different, but really, this is the way it usually goes.
One other thing, watch out, they frequently keep seeing the OP after d-day. Takes a little while for things to calm down.