onlywords - 06/10/04 05:23 AM
Dearest onlywords,
I've noticed some of your responses on other threads. It's apparent that you are angry and defensive about something.
What is your story? Why did you come to MB? How can we help?
As a WS, I used to be very adamant about ensuring that BS see their WS in "proper perspective". But I've learned that the BS has to go through a lot of processes to get to where they can. Just like the WS has to go through a lot before they can truly appreciate the damage they've caused. Those processes can seem offensive to us WSs sometimes, but you have to admit that our withdrawal processes have to be much worse for them. They are struggling. They are here for help.
The reality is that neither WS nor BS can ever really appreciate what the other is going through. (there are some exceptions here who've been on both sides of the fence)
We need to get to the point where we can "hear" what is being said even if we can never truly understand it.
So share your story onlywords...there will be many here to listen.
Low
I've noticed some of your responses on other threads. It's apparent that you are angry and defensive about something.
What is your story? Why did you come to MB? How can we help?
As a WS, I used to be very adamant about ensuring that BS see their WS in "proper perspective". But I've learned that the BS has to go through a lot of processes to get to where they can. Just like the WS has to go through a lot before they can truly appreciate the damage they've caused. Those processes can seem offensive to us WSs sometimes, but you have to admit that our withdrawal processes have to be much worse for them. They are struggling. They are here for help.
The reality is that neither WS nor BS can ever really appreciate what the other is going through. (there are some exceptions here who've been on both sides of the fence)
We need to get to the point where we can "hear" what is being said even if we can never truly understand it.
So share your story onlywords...there will be many here to listen.
Low