Need Advice- Caught him in a lie! - 10/19/04 09:06 PM
Hi.
My husband went on one of his business trips. He told me he was going to TX, but it turns out he was going to NM. This is the same place he went two years ago before we had our Dday.
He came hom a totally different man!
I found out where he really was going by calling in to his work for his hotel address as I was going to send him a gift basket. I can't beleieve he lied to me! I felt like a fool!
My question is WHY? He could have told me the truth. WHY does he need to lie about this. I figured it was because he knows how he acted when he came home two years ago and thought it might "trigger" me and didn't want to deal with it.
He was acting really guilty last night. Very nice to the children and to me. He drank a bit much and then was telling me things about his childhood and how he could never just lie on a beach somewhere again and have no stresses. he now has children and that would weigh on his conscience no matter where he was in relation to his family. I thought this was VERY weird converstaion. I also didn't like that he talked about taking his resume along.
He did tell me later to take comfort in the fact he didn't update his resume to take with him. told him he needs to do whatever makes him happy and that I would support him 100% and he stressed he thought his business could be just as successful here in PA.
I sent him the basket anyway. I am planning to tell him I am disappointed he feels he cannot tell me the truth about things. I am planning to be pleasant and upbeat and tell him I need to go as I have plans.
Inside though, I am dying. I don't want to go through what I did before. I am afraid he is getting his ducks in a row to leave me. I think I should see an attorney about this, but I do not want to jump the gun. I don't want to be a sitting duck though either!
UGHHHHHH! Help!
My husband went on one of his business trips. He told me he was going to TX, but it turns out he was going to NM. This is the same place he went two years ago before we had our Dday.
He came hom a totally different man!
I found out where he really was going by calling in to his work for his hotel address as I was going to send him a gift basket. I can't beleieve he lied to me! I felt like a fool!
My question is WHY? He could have told me the truth. WHY does he need to lie about this. I figured it was because he knows how he acted when he came home two years ago and thought it might "trigger" me and didn't want to deal with it.
He was acting really guilty last night. Very nice to the children and to me. He drank a bit much and then was telling me things about his childhood and how he could never just lie on a beach somewhere again and have no stresses. he now has children and that would weigh on his conscience no matter where he was in relation to his family. I thought this was VERY weird converstaion. I also didn't like that he talked about taking his resume along.
He did tell me later to take comfort in the fact he didn't update his resume to take with him. told him he needs to do whatever makes him happy and that I would support him 100% and he stressed he thought his business could be just as successful here in PA.
I sent him the basket anyway. I am planning to tell him I am disappointed he feels he cannot tell me the truth about things. I am planning to be pleasant and upbeat and tell him I need to go as I have plans.
Inside though, I am dying. I don't want to go through what I did before. I am afraid he is getting his ducks in a row to leave me. I think I should see an attorney about this, but I do not want to jump the gun. I don't want to be a sitting duck though either!
UGHHHHHH! Help!