Am I looking in the wrong place? Or did they eliminate it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Is this a yankee trick?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

dang!!! I think they eliminated it. Haven't seen it since day one of this new board.

They must have eliminated it as I haven't seen it and I've read others saying they can't find it.

Mel, I was just reading a reply of yours on another thread and thought about calling you out on a separate thread <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />. I like what you said and would like to hear more of your thoughts (serial cheating/EN). Sorry for going off topic on your thread.

M&L, feel free to discuss it here if you want. I am certainly no expert, tho!

It is this quote from Molly's thread that has me curious. I have really beat myself up over this one in my M and truly believe the above to be true. I am the BS x 3 and feel like I am getting nowhere...meeting EN's etc but I still feel like it will happen again despite the MB way. Can you alaborate on this for me? I have a thread going (Nikko, psst, over here) and she has been helping me a lot!!!

Another thing I was interested in asking you about as it also applies to me...AA. H is a recovering alcoholic of 16 yrs...

Thanks in advance!

M&L, I don't think serial cheaters cheat because of marital problems, but because of character issues. Marriage Builders is designed to resolve marital problems, not personality problems. And since unmet needs are not the issue, meeting them cannot be the solution. Now, that is not to say that a serial cheater can't get their crap together, they most certainly can. But they must WANT to do it and be committed to intensive counseling that would help them learn to live right.

I think a BS who is married to such a person should just accept them how they are and make decisions accordingly, because they can't possibly change them. The WS must want to change himself.

Does your H's AA sponsor know he is catting around?

You are one clever girl, MelodyLane! Way to catch those yankees! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Oh yankee trick, my [censored].

This yankee misses that feature... kind of.

I really loved to see who was logged in and just ignoring me. Even if it did HURT MY FEELINGS! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

GodblessTexas,

Who are you, really?

You are really Melody aren't you? Or are you Papermom?

Come on, spill it.

I'm glad it's gone - thought it was a bit like Big Brother was watching me! TT

[color:"navy"]Hi ML and others.
The thing is, even if it showed who is Logged On, it wouldn't be accurate of who is actually here at this moment.

Since downloading Firefox, I am always logged on, and probably hundreds of others are also. (With my Internet provider, I am only allowed to be connected to the Internet 8 hrs per day.)

It would look like I am at MB, 24 hours a day, every day for months! [color:"navy"] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

But here is something I did discover.
If you go to 'Main Index', there at the top, it will show how many people are 'viewing'...Like right now at 8am, there are 35 viewing at General Questions II. There will be a LOT more viewing in the next hours...'Just found Out' only has 4 viewing. (This is the most active board. Yay!)

By the way, do you have your background a color?
It is so nice, to know at a glance, that you are logged on.

Go to: My Home, Display Preferences, Edit, Choose Color then SUBMIT.

Sincerely, Julie <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Bubba sez: don't tell no secrets to silly yankees! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Why TT, if I didn't know better I'ld say you are a wee bit paranoid! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Speaking of BB watching us, at work we now have camera's everywhere, EVERYWHERE. Today I am checking them closely for little mini speakers. I think they are listening too! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Mel, I knew that was you. I just KNEW IT! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Julie,

I'll check my background color after I check those camera's. Thanks for the tip!

Whoops! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> That Mel is stealing my lines [she is shore one smart gal <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />] That was me that supposed to say: "Bubba sez: don't tell no secrets to silly yankees!"

Julie, thanks for the info, appreciate it muchly!

You carpetbaggers are tricky devils. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Carpetbagger? Hey I never travelled south trying to take what was not mine.

Had to look that definition up.

I think what you meant to say was "you well-polished northerners sure are smart".

Was that what you meant, lil GODBLESSTEXAS?

Oh dear, I just spewed coffee all over my monitor! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Melody, I also liked that “whose online” thingie that was only available during that 1st day the new forum was up…although it also felt a bit ‘awkward’ or like the other poster has said, “like Big Brother watching over us”! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

[color:"navy"]Hey Suzete.
Did you happen to read my note several posts up?

It really wouldn't show who is ACTUALLY here at MB as many of us are continually logged on even though we are out weeding in our flower gardens.~lol~

I just checked Main Index, General Questions II and we have 52 people viewing at 10:47am.

Love, Julie <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Here's how you do it....

When you are reading a post from somebody, click on their name and it will pop up their information page. At the bottom click on the [color:"orange"] "add to address book" [/color] link. From there on out any of the people in your address book will show up on your "my home" page along with whatever it is they're doing (at least forum activity - not quite Big Brother! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />)

Blessed Time-

Just an FYI....

Even if Firefox keeps you "logged in" - you are not necessarily known to be logged in by the MB site. If you aren't online, the site cannot tell if you are logged in or not....the site puts what is called a "cookie" on your computer that communicates with the site when you view the web pages....does that make sense?

So the who's online thingie ought to be accurate.

Now if you, like me, were to open up multiple windows and browse different websites simultaneously, then the website will think I am reading here, when I may actually be booking flights, buying stuff on Ebay, or finding a Russian bride. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />


Just kidding...

TM

[color:"navy"]Travellinman...actually what you said does make sense.

I just checked 'Main Index' and it says 40 are viewing.
If it said all that were 'logged on', the number would be much greater. (And the other boards have just a few so it must know how to count the viewers for this General Questions board seperately.)

So what you are saying about 'cookies' makes sense!~lol~

However, we don't have that feature that says WHO is logged on, do we?
I think I noticed it the first day or two.

And I, like you, leave and go check email, so I imagine it would show I am still 'viewing'? Not sure, can't peek cause then I would be back viewing!~<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />~

Thanks for the info...

I tried what 'down but trying' recommended but it still didn't show (for me) any names in 'Who is online'.

Sincerely, BT~Julie~ <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I know what ya mean, Suzet! I sort of liked it on one hand, and then on the other, hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for the tip, down! I will add YOU ALL to my buddy list!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />