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Am I looking in the wrong place? Or did they eliminate it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Is this a yankee trick?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />
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dang!!! I think they eliminated it. Haven't seen it since day one of this new board.
BW 42
WH 41
M 14 yrs
ds12,dd7
PA ?? mo/yrs.
Day 12/6/04, 3/20/05 and 9/2/05
"Fool me once, fool me twice, and he fooled me a third time?" I never really found out for sure...
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They must have eliminated it as I haven't seen it and I've read others saying they can't find it. Mel, I was just reading a reply of yours on another thread and thought about calling you out on a separate thread <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />. I like what you said and would like to hear more of your thoughts (serial cheating/EN). Sorry for going off topic on your thread.
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M&L, feel free to discuss it here if you want. I am certainly no expert, tho!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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since unmet needs are not the issue with a serial cheater. Plan A can't change a WS's personality, only they themselves can do that. It is this quote from Molly's thread that has me curious. I have really beat myself up over this one in my M and truly believe the above to be true. I am the BS x 3 and feel like I am getting nowhere...meeting EN's etc but I still feel like it will happen again despite the MB way. Can you alaborate on this for me? I have a thread going (Nikko, psst, over here) and she has been helping me a lot!!! Another thing I was interested in asking you about as it also applies to me...AA. H is a recovering alcoholic of 16 yrs... Thanks in advance!
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M&L, I don't think serial cheaters cheat because of marital problems, but because of character issues. Marriage Builders is designed to resolve marital problems, not personality problems. And since unmet needs are not the issue, meeting them cannot be the solution. Now, that is not to say that a serial cheater can't get their crap together, they most certainly can. But they must WANT to do it and be committed to intensive counseling that would help them learn to live right.
I think a BS who is married to such a person should just accept them how they are and make decisions accordingly, because they can't possibly change them. The WS must want to change himself.
Does your H's AA sponsor know he is catting around?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Am I looking in the wrong place? Or did they eliminate it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Is this a yankee trick?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> You are one clever girl, MelodyLane! Way to catch those yankees! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Don't Mess with Texas!! 
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Oh yankee trick, my [censored]. This yankee misses that feature... kind of. I really loved to see who was logged in and just ignoring me. Even if it did HURT MY FEELINGS! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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GodblessTexas,
Who are you, really?
You are really Melody aren't you? Or are you Papermom?
Come on, spill it.
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I'm glad it's gone - thought it was a bit like Big Brother was watching me! TT
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[color:"navy"]Hi ML and others. The thing is, even if it showed who is Logged On, it wouldn't be accurate of who is actually here at this moment. Since downloading Firefox, I am always logged on, and probably hundreds of others are also. (With my Internet provider, I am only allowed to be connected to the Internet 8 hrs per day.) It would look like I am at MB, 24 hours a day, every day for months! [color:"navy"] <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> But here is something I did discover. If you go to 'Main Index', there at the top, it will show how many people are 'viewing'...Like right now at 8am, there are 35 viewing at General Questions II. There will be a LOT more viewing in the next hours...'Just found Out' only has 4 viewing. (This is the most active board. Yay!)
By the way, do you have your background a color?
It is so nice, to know at a glance, that you are logged on.Go to: My Home, Display Preferences, Edit, Choose Color then SUBMIT. Sincerely, Julie <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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GodblessTexas,
Who are you, really?
You are really Melody aren't you? Or are you Papermom?
Come on, spill it. Bubba sez: don't tell no secrets to silly yankees! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Why TT, if I didn't know better I'ld say you are a wee bit paranoid! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Speaking of BB watching us, at work we now have camera's everywhere, EVERYWHERE. Today I am checking them closely for little mini speakers. I think they are listening too! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Mel, I knew that was you. I just KNEW IT! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Julie, I'll check my background color after I check those camera's. Thanks for the tip!
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Whoops! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> That Mel is stealing my lines [she is shore one smart gal <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />] That was me that supposed to say: "Bubba sez: don't tell no secrets to silly yankees!"
Julie, thanks for the info, appreciate it muchly!
Don't Mess with Texas!!
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Mel, I knew that was you. I just KNEW IT! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> You carpetbaggers are tricky devils. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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Carpetbagger? Hey I never travelled south trying to take what was not mine.
Had to look that definition up.
I think what you meant to say was "you well-polished northerners sure are smart".
Was that what you meant, lil GODBLESSTEXAS?
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I think what you meant to say was "you well-polished northerners sure are smart". Oh dear, I just spewed coffee all over my monitor! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Melody, I also liked that “whose online” thingie that was only available during that 1st day the new forum was up…although it also felt a bit ‘awkward’ or like the other poster has said, “like Big Brother watching over us”! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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[color:"navy"]Hey Suzete. Did you happen to read my note several posts up? It really wouldn't show who is ACTUALLY here at MB as many of us are continually logged on even though we are out weeding in our flower gardens.~lol~ I just checked Main Index, General Questions II and we have 52 people viewing at 10:47am. Love, Julie <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Here's how you do it.... When you are reading a post from somebody, click on their name and it will pop up their information page. At the bottom click on the [color:"orange"] "add to address book" [/color] link. From there on out any of the people in your address book will show up on your "my home" page along with whatever it is they're doing (at least forum activity - not quite Big Brother! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />)
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