MC "good for me(techie)", wife hopes - 08/21/06 12:32 AM
my wife has surprisingly asked me, twice in the last two weeks, how my (individual) marriage counselling is going.
The first time she asked, I told her a teeny bit about it. about how steve says that if both people want to work on a marriage, there are good possibilities for it.
she kinda dismissed that politely.
The second time she asked, I had to say, "I havent seen him again yet. i was planning to go next week" (this week).
Both times, she replied, "well, I hope that it's doing you some good"
I'm going to ask steve about this too, of course <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> but wanted to ask some opinions here, hopefully from WWs especially, what they think of this. and maybe suggestions from WWs on what a good way for me to reply is.
short background: my wife has been always against any kind of "counselling", either personal, or marital. I'm was surprised she asked the first time. but simply amazed when she asked the second time.
I figure there's no way she's going to go from where she thought about them previously, to suddenly saying, "ok I'll go with you." She's still in "we cant work things out between us" mode. but she's been coming over for occasional dinners, "for the childrens' sake". We split 50/50 time, but she has stated that she wants them to see us peacibly coexist.
but anyways, I was wondering about suggestions on how to respond, that might be a little more inviting on "yes this is a good thing that you might be interested in", without saying, "hey [wife] you should give it a try!"
The first time she asked, I told her a teeny bit about it. about how steve says that if both people want to work on a marriage, there are good possibilities for it.
she kinda dismissed that politely.
The second time she asked, I had to say, "I havent seen him again yet. i was planning to go next week" (this week).
Both times, she replied, "well, I hope that it's doing you some good"
I'm going to ask steve about this too, of course <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> but wanted to ask some opinions here, hopefully from WWs especially, what they think of this. and maybe suggestions from WWs on what a good way for me to reply is.
short background: my wife has been always against any kind of "counselling", either personal, or marital. I'm was surprised she asked the first time. but simply amazed when she asked the second time.
I figure there's no way she's going to go from where she thought about them previously, to suddenly saying, "ok I'll go with you." She's still in "we cant work things out between us" mode. but she's been coming over for occasional dinners, "for the childrens' sake". We split 50/50 time, but she has stated that she wants them to see us peacibly coexist.
but anyways, I was wondering about suggestions on how to respond, that might be a little more inviting on "yes this is a good thing that you might be interested in", without saying, "hey [wife] you should give it a try!"