need advice NOW - 12/11/06 05:40 AM
My husban dhas been having an affair since at least August-I have repeatedly had talks with him and he kept saying he was going to stop having contact with her-but of course he kept having contact. This morning he complained of not feeling well and I have been sick so we stayed home from church-I checked his cell phone later in the a.m. and saw he had called her at 8:45. I was furious!! I asked him how he thought things were going with us-he said good. I said how are things going with her? He said he had not had coffee or lunch with her for a while but had kept calling her-which was something I asked him not to do. Then he said he loves me for who I am and that I am the mother of his son and for the history we have but that he feels we are just friends. WHAT??? I thought about it during the day-he took our son to the movie. When they got home I told him we needed to talk-so we drove up the street and talked. I told him again that if he wanted to stay with my and Nicholas he had to make a choice to do so and that would mean no more contact with her. He said that yesterday he went with some friends to a bbq at the Harley dealer ship and there was a girl flirting with him and he wanted to flirt back but didnt so it isnt just Dawn that is the problem. He said he is constantly thinking about being with other girls. I told him again that he needed to make a choice and he chose to continue contact with Dawn so I told him he would have to leave. He packed up all his clothes and told our son-who is devasted-and left. I cant believe this is happening. I guess I was trying plan A for a while without really realizing it and this is now Plan B?? I never told her husband until tonight though. I called him and told him that there had cell phone calls at 6 am and meetings at Starbucks and secret cards and flowers etc. He said he knew none of that and thanked me for the info and said he would look into it-he didnt ask many questions I know she was close by but do you think that means he didnt care or maybe was in shock?
One problem I have is that we work for the same company so I have no choice but to continue to see him. How should I work that? I like my job and dont want to quit. What should my next step be? I love my husband and dont want this to mean divorce.
Please help
One problem I have is that we work for the same company so I have no choice but to continue to see him. How should I work that? I like my job and dont want to quit. What should my next step be? I love my husband and dont want this to mean divorce.
Please help