He told me quite calmly, that he thought he may have trashed it with a bunch of other receipts, and that he would report it stolen and get me a new one. It has yet to show up, but he shows no concern about it.
Reason to be worried?
Uhh...yep. Seems like he's shoring up his finances, you are on the account? Go to the bank and find out what's been going on, get a card, get a history of the transactions.
I did bluntly ask him about it, and he told me no, that he hadnt had an affair with anyone else, but had considered doing it soon if things didnt change.
that he would actually say this, pretty much seals it for me...if he isn't having an A already, which it seems ever increasingly likely he is, he's emotionally blackmailing you with this statement.
As far as the monitoring software sent via email, let me tell ya, he is REALLY good at security. Its just not an option for me at this time.
I hear you there...my FBH is a big time geek as well, and does computer security for a living...I'd never get anything past him either.
LG is right. Time to find out the truth. You need information. You need to know what you are really dealing with in order to know how to proceed.
NEED SOME SPYING EXPERTS TO GIVE SOME ADVICE HERE!!