Pornography - 04/11/07 06:47 PM
Hello everybody,
FWW and I are doing well, so I haven't been around here much lately. I did want to discuss one thing though that I see come up from time to time on these forums, and that is the use of pornography.
Now, let me get one thing straight. I am now a firm believer that neither spouse should hide masturbation from their partner (see my SEX and preventative maintenance thread on this subject), so I am not in any way defending secret masturbation within marriage. But I guarantee that most married men are not getting the sex that they need from their wives, and are supplementing their marital sex with masturbation that they keep hidden from their wives.
Now, here is my question, for the women out there especially. How do you think these men masturbate? HINT: It doesn't involve closing their eyes and fantasizing about being swept off their feet on a dream wedding day. It's PORNOGRAPHY. That is simply how men masturbate, and why the pornography industry is bigger than Hollywood.
So what's my point? I guess I was always just bothered when I see people talk about "being addicted to pornography" or imply that pornography is evil when the real issue is masturbation itself, and the fact that the average husband needs much more sex than is provided in the average marriage. As long as the hidden masturbation is happening, it will be with pornography for men. Women, if you do not have an explicit agreement with your husband that you will share every orgasm, and you are helping him with that in some way 2-7 times a week (depending on the man), then your husband is masturbating, and he is using pornography. It's that simple.
Thoughts?
NS
FWW and I are doing well, so I haven't been around here much lately. I did want to discuss one thing though that I see come up from time to time on these forums, and that is the use of pornography.
Now, let me get one thing straight. I am now a firm believer that neither spouse should hide masturbation from their partner (see my SEX and preventative maintenance thread on this subject), so I am not in any way defending secret masturbation within marriage. But I guarantee that most married men are not getting the sex that they need from their wives, and are supplementing their marital sex with masturbation that they keep hidden from their wives.
Now, here is my question, for the women out there especially. How do you think these men masturbate? HINT: It doesn't involve closing their eyes and fantasizing about being swept off their feet on a dream wedding day. It's PORNOGRAPHY. That is simply how men masturbate, and why the pornography industry is bigger than Hollywood.
So what's my point? I guess I was always just bothered when I see people talk about "being addicted to pornography" or imply that pornography is evil when the real issue is masturbation itself, and the fact that the average husband needs much more sex than is provided in the average marriage. As long as the hidden masturbation is happening, it will be with pornography for men. Women, if you do not have an explicit agreement with your husband that you will share every orgasm, and you are helping him with that in some way 2-7 times a week (depending on the man), then your husband is masturbating, and he is using pornography. It's that simple.
Thoughts?
NS