Internet EA Addiction? - 10/11/07 07:15 PM
My wife is on her 3rd internet EA. These have all happened in the past year. For a week or so after she 'got over' her last one, it seemed like she was actually interested in working things out. Then her attitude toward me started changing again, and I knew exactly what was happening.
We have been married for almost 11 years and have 4 children, the oldest just turned 9. She stays at home with the kids, and I work from home. Because of the current EA, it has been no use talking to her - she wants to get a job and move out on her own. She does little to take care of the kids, and when the internet does not work, she spends most of her time sleeping. When the internet is working, she is online, and spends little or no time with the kids, just enough to change a diaper and fix some food. Does not even sit with us at the dinner table, she just fixes a plate and off to the bedroom with the computer she goes.
Should I cut off the internet? I need it for work (I have an office full of computers), but I can use the laptop with wireless if necessary for my job.
She also has a cell phone, it's in my name though. She talks to this guy (and others) constantly on it. I have thought of cutting it off too, but she'd probably just find a way to get her own. Perhaps I should just leave it alone, I have online access to the call logs if I need to peek at them.
I have done a bit of reading, I have read the surviving an affair book. I'd like to think I can just leave the internet alone and proceed with the MB stuff, and she'd quit on her own, but I am afraid she's addicted to it and right now she can't admit it and get help.
We have been married for almost 11 years and have 4 children, the oldest just turned 9. She stays at home with the kids, and I work from home. Because of the current EA, it has been no use talking to her - she wants to get a job and move out on her own. She does little to take care of the kids, and when the internet does not work, she spends most of her time sleeping. When the internet is working, she is online, and spends little or no time with the kids, just enough to change a diaper and fix some food. Does not even sit with us at the dinner table, she just fixes a plate and off to the bedroom with the computer she goes.
Should I cut off the internet? I need it for work (I have an office full of computers), but I can use the laptop with wireless if necessary for my job.
She also has a cell phone, it's in my name though. She talks to this guy (and others) constantly on it. I have thought of cutting it off too, but she'd probably just find a way to get her own. Perhaps I should just leave it alone, I have online access to the call logs if I need to peek at them.
I have done a bit of reading, I have read the surviving an affair book. I'd like to think I can just leave the internet alone and proceed with the MB stuff, and she'd quit on her own, but I am afraid she's addicted to it and right now she can't admit it and get help.