Can anyone help me with this? - 11/14/07 02:36 AM
The divorce is final, the kids are OK, life is moving on. The thing that troubles me the most is ExWH's constant anger and nastiness to me. I guess I have just been very sheltered (or I just don't get out much), but I don't think anyone in the world has ever held me with such disdain.
I look back on all the relationships I have had, both casual and serious and there is not one man that I dated that I wouldn't be able to have a conversation with these days, or even sit and have lunch. I am just not used to having someone in the world hate me like this.
Why does he hate me-you ask? I don't know, your guess is as good as mine. I don't deal with him much at all. He lets me know what he is going to do as far as the kids and money (all via text message, he rarely speaks to me). I don't argue with him. He is in contempt on 6 points in the divorce agreement, I don't fuss, I just ask that he stop slamming my door and squealing out of my driveway.
I couldn't be more "off his back" no matter what I did. The kids constantly tell me how he complains about me, just saying unprovoked nasty things. The last thing was that it is my fault he hasn't had a date in four months. They come home and tell me that Daddy called me the B word, used the F word, the D work, oh, and don't forget the finger mommy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
I haven't said 2 sentences to him in 2 months.
I know I can't change him, but how to I change my way of thinking so that it doesn't bother me so much?
With Christmas coming up, I would like to be able to at least coordinate what we are getting the kids.
Maybe this is all his plan, when his CS checked bounced, I haven't tried to cash it again nor have I called him about it. No matter what [censored] thing he does, he knows I will not confront him about it as I am just tired of dealing with his irrational anger at me.
Any tips on how not to care anymore?
I look back on all the relationships I have had, both casual and serious and there is not one man that I dated that I wouldn't be able to have a conversation with these days, or even sit and have lunch. I am just not used to having someone in the world hate me like this.
Why does he hate me-you ask? I don't know, your guess is as good as mine. I don't deal with him much at all. He lets me know what he is going to do as far as the kids and money (all via text message, he rarely speaks to me). I don't argue with him. He is in contempt on 6 points in the divorce agreement, I don't fuss, I just ask that he stop slamming my door and squealing out of my driveway.
I couldn't be more "off his back" no matter what I did. The kids constantly tell me how he complains about me, just saying unprovoked nasty things. The last thing was that it is my fault he hasn't had a date in four months. They come home and tell me that Daddy called me the B word, used the F word, the D work, oh, and don't forget the finger mommy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
I haven't said 2 sentences to him in 2 months.
I know I can't change him, but how to I change my way of thinking so that it doesn't bother me so much?
With Christmas coming up, I would like to be able to at least coordinate what we are getting the kids.
Maybe this is all his plan, when his CS checked bounced, I haven't tried to cash it again nor have I called him about it. No matter what [censored] thing he does, he knows I will not confront him about it as I am just tired of dealing with his irrational anger at me.
Any tips on how not to care anymore?