My Husband Loves Porn - 11/19/07 01:48 AM
We have been married for 6 years now and our SF (well, I thought, is getting better). I have posted 2 weeks ago that my husband has gotten hold of some porn links from his male contacts and that he was watching it for 2 consecutive nights. The advice from MB was that I should have a Keylogger installed (which I did) and I managed to confront him about the porn issue. Well, you see, the previous time, I was able to see that he's visiting porn sites because he left his log-on history there and it's easy.
2 weeks have passed, what I did was: 1) Keylogger installed, 2) Confronted my H that I didn't like the porn sites that he visits, which he told me that he wouldn't visit them again (I had to reveal to him that I saw them from the log-on history) 3) We did the Emotional Needs Survey (and both of us found that SF was 3rd or 4th on our list; Openness and Honesty is our 1st; but the SF frequency that he wanted was higher then mine) 4) We tried to fulfill each other's needs (well, our drive for SF was rather high), so we had more SF than we did for the past 6 years
I THOUGHT I WAS ON THE RIGHT TRACK??????!!!!!!!!!!!
Last few nights, I tried to check the keylogger and noticed that he was still onto those porn clips, he was onto 4-6 video clips per night. There was no record of porn chats/ porn purchases/ suspicious emails/ suspicious phone calls. He's just viewing those clips for free. And now, he's deleting away the logon history. And I don't want to tell me my source (keylogger).
What should I do? Should I be worried? Is it normal for guys to view porn clips? I wouldn't consider him a porn addict bec we never had such at home. And well, I do visit such porn sites too (out of curiosity). But, I don't know if he's doing it a little too frequent. Pls advise.
I'm starting to lose confidence in him. He told me I was acting weirdly for the past 2 weeks and he would like things to go back normal. But how can I act normal now when he lied to me about the porn sites???
2 weeks have passed, what I did was: 1) Keylogger installed, 2) Confronted my H that I didn't like the porn sites that he visits, which he told me that he wouldn't visit them again (I had to reveal to him that I saw them from the log-on history) 3) We did the Emotional Needs Survey (and both of us found that SF was 3rd or 4th on our list; Openness and Honesty is our 1st; but the SF frequency that he wanted was higher then mine) 4) We tried to fulfill each other's needs (well, our drive for SF was rather high), so we had more SF than we did for the past 6 years
I THOUGHT I WAS ON THE RIGHT TRACK??????!!!!!!!!!!!
Last few nights, I tried to check the keylogger and noticed that he was still onto those porn clips, he was onto 4-6 video clips per night. There was no record of porn chats/ porn purchases/ suspicious emails/ suspicious phone calls. He's just viewing those clips for free. And now, he's deleting away the logon history. And I don't want to tell me my source (keylogger).
What should I do? Should I be worried? Is it normal for guys to view porn clips? I wouldn't consider him a porn addict bec we never had such at home. And well, I do visit such porn sites too (out of curiosity). But, I don't know if he's doing it a little too frequent. Pls advise.
I'm starting to lose confidence in him. He told me I was acting weirdly for the past 2 weeks and he would like things to go back normal. But how can I act normal now when he lied to me about the porn sites???