Hi guys,

I just wanted to know what you all think about Cheaters on tv???

Here in Europe it's just been a few weeks that they began bringing it on tv.

The first time my xWS saw it.......he was shocked........mostly when I said: I really like that!!!!LOL and wish they had that kind of stuff here!!!

bb

I think it's pretty cheesy. I think it's filmed pretty much in Dallas where I live. My oldest daughter called me one day and said:

"OMG Mom, I just saw ______ on cheaters! He was on his 3rd wife and was caught cheating on her. Thank God I didn't marry him when I was younger!"

She dated him for about a year and was head-over-heels about him. Our family saw him for what he was back then... but we never dreamed he'd make it to stardom on Cheaters. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hey *yellow flower*.

I've probably seen around a dozen or so episodes over the years.
Usually when I'm just flipping around the 500+ stations .......with nothing on. You know the drill.
And some of those were on the insomniac nights when I couldn't sleep due to the A ramifications.

As far as the premise ....... I believe any method to catch and expose cheaters is fine and useful.
Of course it HAS to be Over the Top .....or they'd get zero as oppossed to low ratings.

However,
I do recall watching 2 back to back episodes Back while my W's Affair was ongoing (but before any D-day).

I recall looking back [after D-day] and thinking ......"how the Fck can you sit there and watch material like this with us both in the room and even COMMENTING about the cheating participants" .......and then the next day/week just Continue on with all your sneaky underhanded bullstuff.

So that's what cheaters always makes me think of .......my W watching the show with me and (supposedly) agreeing with my comments ......but Never really taking off her own mask. Both Sad and creepy.

Anyway,
Haven't seen an episode in probably 2 yrs at least.
Just too much trigger stimulus there for it to be worth it.

Besides there are always the other 499+ to remote around,
am I right.

I haven't seen it myself yet... just heard two different people talking about it at work.

One guy (my boss) thought it was great that cheaters were being caught and exposed (plus he thought the show was ilarious - said one cheater actually climbed up a tree to try to get away from the cameraman);

another guy (um who was married/separated/divorced... he was telling different versions to different people and/or on different days, was from another state working with us for last winter, and was 'dating' a coworker) thought it was awful and expressed empathy for the cheaters and saying it was stupid to do that to a cheater because he might react violently to somebody trying to destroy his marriage...

I said the cheaters themselves are the ones destroying their marriages and the time to start protecting their marriage is long before their cheating is being exposed on a tv show.

PrincessMeggy, that it is too funny about your daughter's former BF. Thak GOD she was lucky enough to not get married to him!

I sometimes wonder/worry what sort of cheating-related problems might lie in my WXH's future, and if our daughters find out about it how it might affect them. I doubt my WXH will stick to just dating forever, if he doesnt' have one aleady it's just a matter of time before he has a steady GF/wife... and then cheats on her too... If it wasn't for our daughters and wanting to protect them, I'd call that tv show and tell them to start watching him. I have no doubt that he could be one of their steady sources of material, a regular character LOL.

IMHO these cheaters should have a warning label and such a show could serve as protection to others who might cross their path.

*BlondBlossom* I'm willing to bet my WXH thinx the show is just horrible and that it's 'nobody's business' what a married man does with his mistress.

I'm curious: have they shown cheating wives too? Besides the conversation with the coworkers discussing the man who climbed the tree, I don't know much about the show.

Hey BB!

Mrs. RIF and I actually enjoy watching this show together (when I'm home)...

They film most of the episodes around the DFW area where we live and we're always looking to see if we know anyone... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

When we first saw it, Mrs. RIF said that there was no way that she'd ever cheat again because she didn't want to end up on Cheaters! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Semper Fi,

RIF

I know what you mean TopRope!

"So that's what cheaters always makes me think of .......my W watching the show with me and (supposedly) agreeing with my comments ......but Never really taking off her own mask. Both Sad and creepy."

When my WXH was involved with OW#6 there was a movie out about a woman murdering her WH's OW that WH and I went to see. I remember WH commenting that he thought the BW was justified in killing the OW! I was the one who defended the OW, saying she absolutely should not have been sleeping with a married man but that the wife didn't have a right to kill her!

Also, during that time there was an ongoing murder trial in our town involving an OW who killed the BW. The WH had been telling the OW that his 'marriage was dead' and that he wanted to divorce his wife but that the BW supposedly wouldn't 'let him get a divorce'. So I guess the OW decided to 'rescue' him from the marriage/wife he was 'forced' to stay 'trapped' in!

I was MAJORLY CREEPED OUT when I found out my husband was involved with an OW at the same time and that he had been telling the OW I was 'forcing' him to stay married to him.

Maybe some days my WH wished the OW would kill me... and other days he wished I would kill her? Talk about the WS ambivalence!

Oh yeah. They show cheating wives and husbands and girlfriends and boyfriends.

Since this show has just started here in Europe for a few weeks, I haven't seen many............I hope to see the one with the guy climbing up the tree <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I personally am for anything that brings out an affair into the public!!!!!! even if it's as corney as this.
bb

They've got a website - www.cheaters.com

Getting your A featured on "Cheaters"? Now THAT is exposure at a nuclear bomb level <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

My wife and I used to watch it together before her A. I can't take it anymore. It just stirs up so many emotions for me. We had made promises just 5 months before my wife's A while watching the show that we would never do that to one another.

Did you guys know that the host was actually stabbed by someone when they confronted the cheater? You can probably find the video on youtube.com

Love the show. I like "in your face" confrontations. It is funny to watch the cheaters squirm...even lie when confronted with video tape evidence. One episode the guy actually tried to convince his wife it wasn't him in the tape. Just as often you will hear the cheater saying.."how could you do this to me?"

It can be a trigger though so people should be careful about watching if they are in a "raw" place.

Just as often you will hear the cheater saying.."how could you do this to me?"

I don't get that either???? Aren't they aware of what are doing and what they are doing to their spouse??

bb

"Getting your A featured on "Cheaters"? Now THAT is exposure at a nuclear bomb level."

LOL

If I didn't have my threee daughters to be concerned about, and this show had existed when my WXH was cheating, I SO would have volunteered to have him exposed this way!!!

But hey, odds are my WXH will someday be on that show, cheating on somebdoy else instead of me though.

Nukes away!

I like the show...never miss an episode. It's classic "good guy -- bad guy" stuff where the "bad guy" always get "what they deserve." You don't get much of that anywhere else. Of course, few of those BS's on that show have any intention of applying MB principles to recover their marriages. But that's okay. To me, it's just entertainment.

What about 24? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Well I know thatthe host on one episode was stabbed by one of the cheaters, they had caught up with him on his boat with the woman he was cheating with a scuffle ensued and the host was stabbed of course since this makes good tv the camera man kept right on shooting.

I think its a good show but kind of chessey the way they comfront the cheating person all for great tv

I think its a HOOT!!

Before infidelity happened to me, I would have thought the show was awful, exploiting people's pain and all that.

But since D-day happened to me, I LOVE it. It comes on late so I don't get to see it too often. But I absolutely have to get the popcorn ready when they get to the point that they are going to catch the cheaters on camera.

And occasionally the OW is a decent person, didn't know the jerk was married, and slaps him. Gotta love that!

Before infidelity happened to me........I wouldn't of believed that this show was real. I wouldn't of believed probably anything.
It's interesting to see the how differently people react when confronting or when being confronted. It's also very shocking at times.

The strangest part for me is to see how some WS realize the minute they have been caught that they "love their BS" and that they don't want their affairee partner......
it's far from my way of seeing things to see the OW stomping and screaming at the BS........doesn't this say it all.

I think than when my husband does watch cheaters together with me...............it's an eye-opener each time for him. I'm quit sure that OP fall into a few different catagories.....from real low character ones to ones that truely don't know that the OP is married or has a girlfriend.

In our situation the xOW definately knew that my husband was married............she knew so much about us before she started her plan to meet my husband. So she was a real sleezy OW.........It took years to get rid of her......(hang-up phone calls)

So honestly when we do watch Cheaters.......it's a turn off for my husband when he thinks about the xOW because now that he is long time out of the fog.....he realizes how far he was from solving any problems and he sees what problems he was heading for with that xOW. It helps him to see things through the eyes of a BS........and how much pain is involved. The best of all though is that he sees that he surely wasn't giving his 100% into our marriage......he wasn't dealing with reality and he felt justified.

He didn't want to have to deal with the kids, business and that stuff...........and he has realized the fantasy of his affair and how far off-track he was and what crap he and xOW were talking about and thinking at that time.......it had nothing to do with reality.

The last time we watched it he commented one story and said: OMG I feel so sorry for that woman.....her husband is a real $$$hole.

bb

I think it's pretty funny and very good at showing how sleazy affairs really are. It's good to have a show that spotlights the reality of adultery instead of glorifying it.

I do, however, occasionally get a bit of a kick in the gut when watching what the betrayed person goes through on it. It's easy to empathize with them.

I saw "my favorite" episode over a year ago I commented about on here.

In this case the WW was in the back of OM's car wearing only underwear when the camera crew and BH arrived.

The BH and crew, blocks the OM's car with the Cheaters van. The busy couple are still unaware, the BH opens the drivers door while WW and OM are busy in the back seat. BH takes the car keys and throws them into the dark, and proceeds to ask his WW "whats going on"?

Now this part is classic: She responds: He's just a friend, and we were "talking". They are still in undies!

BH responds: With no clothes on?

At this point OM runs from the car in his boxers. His only hiding spot is a Port O Potty!

While WW is getting her shirt back on, BH turns his attention to OM...

Best Part: OM will not come out of his Port O Potty hiding spot, so BH tips the potty over, it goes xrashing to the ground, spilling it's nasty content all over OM! Too bad he didn't send it to the ground door first, but this would not have allowed us viewers to see OM get out covered in....

After the poo settles, the show's spokesman is trying to question the OM, but first asks the security guy to make sure to stay between them so he will not get any of that stuff on him.

The couple remain together, b/c the BH believes it's his fault for not showing his WW the attention she deserved. The WW comments that "all women should cheat when they are not getting the attention they deserve in a relationship.

Cheaters disclaims: We do not agree with that believe, the couple should have seeked counsel.

I had tears in my eye's laughing at 1:00am.

It's should have been a one hour show. I wanted to watch the stinkboy search for his keys in the dark public park.

-JKT

I hope they bring that episode over here......I can't wait to see it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

bb

I'd just like to know if anyone here in MBers has even been in the show or has anyone ever contacted Cheaters??

bb

I have had a few pleasant “mini-vacations” imagining rolling into a parking lot in the Cheaters Van, halogen spotlights igniting the darkness while Wayzilla and Gollum were in my old company truck testing the suspension.

Talk about what a grand exposure that would be.

Man oh man,
why does that attitude sound sooo disturbingly familiar???

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However,
I will say that it would have been a classic to see my W's CLB covered in #1 & #2. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
How fitting is that?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

JKT- That is my fav episode, too!

OK, I am the WS, so dig at me for my opinion here if you must, but...

The only thing I hate about this show is the Jerry Springer aspect. I hate the fact that people get physically hurt (including the host getting stabbed on one episode!) and the revenge-type exposure. I think exposure is crucial, but in the context of close friends or family who can work with you to help heal and to help the WS "get it." Also, the children who may be involved could see much more than they should ever be exposed to, which may hurt them even more than they already (possibly) have been. Does this make sense?

Think about the teenager already dealing with a very difficult home experience (where they should always feel safe) and then going to school and having to deal with other kids who saw the epsiode. "Hey, saw your dad/mom on the show "Cheaters" last night, etc" then uses it to torture the already emotionally distressed teen.

Just a thought...

JKT,

Your post was hilarious. I'm sitting at work trying not to laugh, but everyone is looking at me wondering what's so funny. Good recap of the show!!

Someone just told me about a show called Big Love on HBO. Described as a guy with 3 wives, 3 households etc. A religious thing I guess, but sounds like just another excuse to commit adultry to me. Has anyone seen that show??

Yes, I've seen Big Love.. It about a Poligimist famility (Husband and his 3 wives). They live in mainstream USA, hiding their secret.

I didn't find it offensive. It's a TV show. I just didn't find it worth watching.

Keep in mind.. I liked "The Sopranos" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I tried watching Big Love for a while. I like Bill Paxton and Harry Dean Stanton.

It was okay I guess. I just kinda lost interest in it.

But:



You and me both!!

Many times I wished I was Tony so I could take care of the infidels!! (but without the ho'ing around Tony loved to do so much!)

I did cuss like him a bunch, though. When I was not around anyone else!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Tony: "WHAT THE F---!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" ect. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />