Update - and should my WW post here? - 02/07/08 09:43 PM
Just as an update, my WW has moved back home. She has been here about a week. No funny business on this one. I say that with a great deal of caution as I think I have 3 "my WW moved back home threads" Anyway, this time seems different. Perhaps I'm delusional, but it does seem different. She brought the car, the cat, and all her possessions. She called to set up the MC today. Her attitude about things has been great.
However, we've been argueing about things. On the one hand, I'm happy about that because she is not withdrawn or conflict avoiding, but on the other, I'm frustrated because we don't seem to make any progress.
I finally told her that I don't think we should talk about these issues without the help of a professional, and she agreed.
Anyway, she said something to me, about this forum. She said "I can't post there because they all hate me." What struck me was that I didn't bring it up and I was kind of wondering maybe she wants to post here. But then again, maybe she doesn't and just wanted to pre-empt me asking.
The other thing I thought about was hate was a really strong word. She posted as MargieThomas. I've read through the responses she got, and while some were tough, hate seemed a little over the top. If anybody remembers her, do you think the responses were hateful? I don't know, maybe she posted as another screenname.
Anyway, given the tone around here, do people think she should post here? Do people hate her? Part of me thinks it would be a good idea, but part of me thinks it won't help if she is going to get blasted, or she intreprets everything as being blasted.
However, we've been argueing about things. On the one hand, I'm happy about that because she is not withdrawn or conflict avoiding, but on the other, I'm frustrated because we don't seem to make any progress.
I finally told her that I don't think we should talk about these issues without the help of a professional, and she agreed.
Anyway, she said something to me, about this forum. She said "I can't post there because they all hate me." What struck me was that I didn't bring it up and I was kind of wondering maybe she wants to post here. But then again, maybe she doesn't and just wanted to pre-empt me asking.
The other thing I thought about was hate was a really strong word. She posted as MargieThomas. I've read through the responses she got, and while some were tough, hate seemed a little over the top. If anybody remembers her, do you think the responses were hateful? I don't know, maybe she posted as another screenname.
Anyway, given the tone around here, do people think she should post here? Do people hate her? Part of me thinks it would be a good idea, but part of me thinks it won't help if she is going to get blasted, or she intreprets everything as being blasted.