Anniversaries of learning of affairs depress You? - 03/26/08 02:43 AM
Hi, this is my first post. I was wondering if anybody goes thru depression when they go thru the anniversary of when they learned of their spouses affair, especially if they are still married or living with them.
I'll explain, I learned of one of my wife's affairs in Feb. (3 years ago)and thru all the trauma, stress and weeks of sleepless nights wound up finally deciding to divorce her right at tax time on April 15th. I have strong memories of going downtown to pick up the form to file for an tax deadline extension feeling incredibly depressed having to finally decide that my 30 year marriage was not worth saving.
Between that Feb and May I went thru tons of stress and misery and every year when I approach that time of year (this year included) I sink into depression. It is important to mention that I am still living with my wife and we are not divorced but our situation has not improved much. Each year I get a little better but it is at such a slow rate that I would have to live to be 389 years old to probably get completely over it.
The peak of misery is at that April 15th tax deadline when I reached that depressing conclusion plus I had a breakdown around then. After that time, the misery begins to slowly wind down. I appreciate the humor involving having something so devasting directly linked to tax season, but it is really painful.
I was just curious to see if there are other people in the same situation.
Thanks for reading!
I'll explain, I learned of one of my wife's affairs in Feb. (3 years ago)and thru all the trauma, stress and weeks of sleepless nights wound up finally deciding to divorce her right at tax time on April 15th. I have strong memories of going downtown to pick up the form to file for an tax deadline extension feeling incredibly depressed having to finally decide that my 30 year marriage was not worth saving.
Between that Feb and May I went thru tons of stress and misery and every year when I approach that time of year (this year included) I sink into depression. It is important to mention that I am still living with my wife and we are not divorced but our situation has not improved much. Each year I get a little better but it is at such a slow rate that I would have to live to be 389 years old to probably get completely over it.
The peak of misery is at that April 15th tax deadline when I reached that depressing conclusion plus I had a breakdown around then. After that time, the misery begins to slowly wind down. I appreciate the humor involving having something so devasting directly linked to tax season, but it is really painful.
I was just curious to see if there are other people in the same situation.
Thanks for reading!