The sermon today at church was about What to Do, When you Don't Know What to Do. I think you, and many of us here, feel that way often,,,,,,trying to figure out our path.

It gave me great comfort to hear that the 'instructions' were pretty much what you & I and a whole lot of other folks are doing.

#1. Pray - always and unceasingly ( seek Him & His will constantly)

#2. Be Patient (He is always on Time)

#3. Be Positive (Trust in Him. Don't deny your circumstances, but trust that HE has a plan to work it to our good)

#4. Be ProActive (Don't let the unknown in 1 part of your life paralyze your ENTIRE life. Keep up with all other aspects of your live and leave this one thing to Him)

While we are praying, trusting, and being positive, if we carry on with the other aspects of our life, the answers will come. Getting snared up in the questions doesn't free us to do what we need to do. Carry on, knowing that the answer will come.

I know that IRL folks look at us like we are totally NUTS when we say anything about still having any spec of love for our WH. That's ok. I know what I know. I accept what I know. It works for me. Most people around me accept that. If they don't, I don't spend much, if any, time with them OR it's just not something we discuss at all.

It is hard after seeing the WH to not think about still loving them. What I do is mentally picture a beautiful, mahogony trunk. It's like a huge, old fashioned steamer trunk. The kind with brass straps and a huge key lock on the front. I picture putting the love I have for Drac inside that trunk and locking it up tight. I then keep the key on a golden chain around my neck. It is nice and long so that I can tuck it inside where no one can see it, but I know it's there.

This is how I handle accepting the love that I have for him. It's locked away. The horrible monster he is can't touch it. He doesn't know where the key is and he never will. If someday the man I love shows up, I'll have the key. If he doesn't, then one day I will likely take the chain off my neck and put it away, too.

Time will tell.

What I'm trying to say is that instead of beating yourself up for the love you feel, protect it. Put it away into a safe place so that you can carry on with the rest of your life. It doesn't mean you STOP loving him, but merely that you put space between your day to day life and that love.

Dancing Machine....SOCIAL COMMITTEE CHAIRPERSON...

I nominate Bugsy as the President of the PLAN B Support Group...

I am doing so well this time around. I'm surprised how well, to be honest.

"You Can't Fix Stupid" - My Mom

When I was going through my first divorce I would go over to my aunts house just to shoot the breaze. She was about 80 at the time. When the subject of my ex wife would come up she would wryly say "The more you handle a turd the more crap you get on yourself"