We're Just Friends? - 09/07/08 04:08 PM
Hi everyone, just a question I am sure it has been asked before.
A little history my wife has just broken out of a long term affair with a married man. She has a long history of always having male friends, even before we started our relationship.
We have been married 19 years one child.
She again started to develop which she called a friendship with another man from work, again a married man, he and her talking at least once daily usually more. So I stepped in and told her it was not a good idea to start another friedship with a man.
After all thats how the first affair got started. Of course she had an attitude but did say she would stop calling him. I explained to her that she shouldn't call another man especially one that is married and I didn't want him calling her. I do not want her to start these friendships with men I just think they can only be bad. What is everyone else's feeling on this subject? What can be done to avoid this situation? I feel it makes me look like a jealous husband, when I have to step in. It is something I shouldn't have to deal with.
I am very upset that she would get mad at me for stepping in as I feel I have the right to intervene after all that has happened.
A little history my wife has just broken out of a long term affair with a married man. She has a long history of always having male friends, even before we started our relationship.
We have been married 19 years one child.
She again started to develop which she called a friendship with another man from work, again a married man, he and her talking at least once daily usually more. So I stepped in and told her it was not a good idea to start another friedship with a man.
After all thats how the first affair got started. Of course she had an attitude but did say she would stop calling him. I explained to her that she shouldn't call another man especially one that is married and I didn't want him calling her. I do not want her to start these friendships with men I just think they can only be bad. What is everyone else's feeling on this subject? What can be done to avoid this situation? I feel it makes me look like a jealous husband, when I have to step in. It is something I shouldn't have to deal with.
I am very upset that she would get mad at me for stepping in as I feel I have the right to intervene after all that has happened.