... it does sting quit a bit knowing our lives were turned completely upside down for such an utter loser.
W2S,
I've been pondering a post to you as soon as I read this thread, but was trying to find a way to lead into it ... and then you made the above post and opened the door for this discussion.
As we have discussed, our situations are somewhat in common, in that I think we both have FWW's that acted completely outside of their normal characters and went "out of their minds" for a period of time. I guess I'll never really understand the "whys" and "how could yous", but it still puzzles me at times ... LIKE NOW ...
After almost 2 years ... last week ... through some cyber-snooping, I came across a series of photos of our POSOM. Up until then, I had no idea what he looked like ... all I knew was what FogFree had told me ... "He was very good looking", and although in his early 50's had "a body like a 25 year old".
Then I see these photos, and DAMN ... how FOGGY was it on that trip to Mexico???
(Disclaimer: I'm probably going to offend someone with this description, but it is what it is)
We have a local TV celebrity here that is openly gay, and just doesn't appear healthy, and it has been rumored that he is HIV positive. He is always doing something to keep the local gossip mill going, and is an easy character to make sport of ... which BOTH of us have done in the past. He is just one of those "easy targets" with his local celebrity, looks and behaviors.
Well ... I'll be damned if POSOM couldn't pass for this AIDS patient's twin brother. This "very good looking" slimeball, with the "body like a 25 year olds" ... REALLY looks like pasty faced "death warmed over".
So ... part of me is somewhat relieved that I wasn't up against George Clooney, but like you said ...
"it does sting quit a bit knowing our lives were turned completely upside down for such an utter loser".... and like your POSOM, it wasn't just about his looks, there were definately OBVIOUS character flaws from his OPENING LINE on, that somehow FogFree just glossed over to start an A with this low life.
At this point, and for the past 8-10 days, my ANGER has returned. Its not really directed at anyone in particular, just a seething slow burn of anger over all of this "stuff" that we've had to deal with for nearly two years now for THAT!!!
WTF???
My HEAD knows all of the rational reasons/excuses for what happened (i.e. Fog, aliens, etc.) ... but my body just can't seem to get past the baseline instincts and emotions.
You've been at this longer than I, and had more to deal with ... any tips on how you have been able to rationalize all of this within yourself and not get consumed by the anger?