Posting for G, she needs our help. - 05/05/00 01:29 PM
I received the following email from G who needs our assistance. I told her I would post her email minus her name and email address. I have already responded in an email that I sent her. <P>Everyone give her the wonderful advice that we always give.<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR><BR>> Hi Professorg,<BR>><BR>> I cannot post on the site because my employers do not let me but I<BR>> am interested in finding out how to rekindle the love.<BR>><BR>> I know what works, I know what doesn't work.<BR>><BR>> However, how can one go from verbal abuse and criticism, to<BR>> intimacy and love??????????<BR>><BR>> My H out of the blue said the other week, I think we are wrong for<BR>> each other. You want to do things your way, I want to do things<BR>> my way. Maybe we should split.<BR>><BR>> Then in the next few days that followed he said "I think we should<BR>> move from this house."<BR>><BR>> We put the house on the market. What worries me is that the<BR>> problems of the last 7 years haven't gone.<BR>><BR>> I am looking for what is normal. My H works very long hours. He<BR>> is going bald at 29 years old and feels tired. He has imflamation<BR>> in his chest and was told its because of the stress and not eating.<BR>><BR>> Our sex life is scarce to say the least.<BR>><BR>> My H can be fine for weeks and then like yesterday he yelled.<BR>> "Why is there **** on my chair". He put the books there himself.<BR>><BR>> I made a big mistake and fought back. I should have left the room<BR>> and ignored him.<BR>><BR>> I know his moods are about him. I am done with analysising. I<BR>> know there are things I have to accept that I can't change must<BR>> accept.<BR>><BR>> How though can I get through to my H.<BR>><BR>> Last night we were watching a soap opera, one of the actors said<BR>> "We've been together 6 years and what now, we don't have a loving<BR>> relationship, we just exist. Why bother?"<BR>><BR>> I didn't know what to say. My H said "You see, maybe we are like<BR>> them on the tv. Maybe its the way life is. After 6 years life is<BR>> boring and tiresome."<BR>><BR>> What do you think, do you think that after 6 years life should be<BR>> boring and tiresome????????<BR>><BR>> Maybe you could do me a favour and ask other marriagebuilder<BR>> members and post their replies to me.<BR>><BR>> Sorry I can't chat in the forum, but hopefully you won't mind e-<BR>> mailing me.<BR>><BR><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>------------------<BR><B><I>God Bless,<BR>Rob</I></B><BR> regilmor@swbell.net