Why can he not say what he wants? - 09/21/00 08:15 PM
I've been in thid lonely boat since Dec 99. Because of H flip flopping between me and other woman I filed for divorce to protect our assets which she wanted him to get before I could. His drinking has not gottin any better and I dont see that he has done anything to help this marriage except come home every night by 8 the latest, when the day ends at 5. I'm so tired of not knowing what tomorrow brings I am mentally falling apart. Last week went out got into a tiff. He says its not all about me I'm not the queen, and his tired of feeling he would be nothing without me. He is very successfully self employed a business we built together he the most me the bookkeeping etc. The other night I asked if he wanted a divorce his answer was to ask me. I told him no but I counld not stay married this way. I told him I thought about killing myself and wrote notes to him and my three boys. I gqess he felt bad said no not you Joycee. nHe said he thought this whole thing was because he wanted his freedom. When I told him I'd call my lawyer (he never hired one) tomorrow he said that was a quick answer-he didn't mean it. I waited and never got an answer as to what he wants and after about 20 minutes told him I was still waiting for an answer. He said he knew and that was it.The next night we were going to a class for boating. He looked at me after work asked whats wrong. I said nothing. His comment was you look distraught you always ruin ever thing I look forward to. He says he has not seen the OW since August but I dont believe him. He continues to lie and be sneaky. I've been told by others he feels guilty wants out but can not say so. What do I do? How can I get him to admit his feeling one way or the other