Help… WW has violent & nasty fit last night & claims to not remember. - 01/09/02 04:07 AM
(The background)
All along I've seen my WW claim to forget unbecoming things about herself or actions since the beginning of the affair. I've just considered this behavior selective memory for the sake of her version of the truth. Most of the time these memory lapses are over minor things like "I didn’t say that" type of stuff. I'm somewhat photographic when it comes to memory and can normally quote a conversation word for word even months after it has taken place, so I just have chalked it up to being able to remember more than most other folks. The affair is supposably over now for about a year yet no recover and she still works with the OM. <p>(The setting)
Last night I came home from working on a project about 7 PM. She was in the living room drinking wine with candles lit and asked me to sit down and talk. Come to find out she was being turned into a contract employee from being a VP. She had got the news that afternoon. I listened a lot. Then gave my opinion when asked. My opinion is mostly based on the fact that I had told her for a while that this (job loss) was coming since she had slept with the #2 guy in the company for a year and it was now over. Recently there had been quite a bit of tension about company Xmas parties and the OM's wife and such. I repeated what I had been saying from the beginning, that she needed to get an employment attorney because she is gracefully being ousted due to the fact that she is a potential problem to a guy that is considered Teflon. <p>(The act)
After bout 1-2 hours of discussions and she had finished the bottle of wine, she started getting mean, swearing and name-calling. I kept calm and let her know that she was acting mean and cruel. Only got worse, she eventually grabbed my cheek, screamed some crud in my face and I backed up. Told her to not touch me again and walked in the other room and sat down. She followed me in and more BS spouted from her mouth and tried to slap me but had a cupped hand and poke me in the eye. At that point I stood up, told her if she touched me again I was calling the police and they might find her on her [censored]. She then went to bed. Night over 11pm.<p>This is way outside of her character to raise a hand. She normally goes to take a nap (depression) whenever stressed. <p>Today I woke up early and left, bout 10 o'clock she called and said I think I should be sorry. Told her I was too F'ing pissed to talk to her. When I got home she claims to not remember anything that she did at all, not a bit. Acts totally shocked when I told her. I almost believe her except for the part about calling me to say she thought she should be sorry. I know several of you will point to the alcohol, but 1 bottle is within her limits. She might be drunk, but not out of control or blackout. Also when the BS was going on I was looking at her to see just how drunk she was, thinking maybe this was not the 1st bottle of wine, but her words were not staggered and her motor functions where good. The one thing I did notice was she had Crazy squinting mean eyes like Clint Eastwood was famous for. <p>I'm at a loss other than the sooner I get to the Divorce attorney the better. Any clues on how one forgets this type of behavior? Anyone care to venture a guess on this one?
All along I've seen my WW claim to forget unbecoming things about herself or actions since the beginning of the affair. I've just considered this behavior selective memory for the sake of her version of the truth. Most of the time these memory lapses are over minor things like "I didn’t say that" type of stuff. I'm somewhat photographic when it comes to memory and can normally quote a conversation word for word even months after it has taken place, so I just have chalked it up to being able to remember more than most other folks. The affair is supposably over now for about a year yet no recover and she still works with the OM. <p>(The setting)
Last night I came home from working on a project about 7 PM. She was in the living room drinking wine with candles lit and asked me to sit down and talk. Come to find out she was being turned into a contract employee from being a VP. She had got the news that afternoon. I listened a lot. Then gave my opinion when asked. My opinion is mostly based on the fact that I had told her for a while that this (job loss) was coming since she had slept with the #2 guy in the company for a year and it was now over. Recently there had been quite a bit of tension about company Xmas parties and the OM's wife and such. I repeated what I had been saying from the beginning, that she needed to get an employment attorney because she is gracefully being ousted due to the fact that she is a potential problem to a guy that is considered Teflon. <p>(The act)
After bout 1-2 hours of discussions and she had finished the bottle of wine, she started getting mean, swearing and name-calling. I kept calm and let her know that she was acting mean and cruel. Only got worse, she eventually grabbed my cheek, screamed some crud in my face and I backed up. Told her to not touch me again and walked in the other room and sat down. She followed me in and more BS spouted from her mouth and tried to slap me but had a cupped hand and poke me in the eye. At that point I stood up, told her if she touched me again I was calling the police and they might find her on her [censored]. She then went to bed. Night over 11pm.<p>This is way outside of her character to raise a hand. She normally goes to take a nap (depression) whenever stressed. <p>Today I woke up early and left, bout 10 o'clock she called and said I think I should be sorry. Told her I was too F'ing pissed to talk to her. When I got home she claims to not remember anything that she did at all, not a bit. Acts totally shocked when I told her. I almost believe her except for the part about calling me to say she thought she should be sorry. I know several of you will point to the alcohol, but 1 bottle is within her limits. She might be drunk, but not out of control or blackout. Also when the BS was going on I was looking at her to see just how drunk she was, thinking maybe this was not the 1st bottle of wine, but her words were not staggered and her motor functions where good. The one thing I did notice was she had Crazy squinting mean eyes like Clint Eastwood was famous for. <p>I'm at a loss other than the sooner I get to the Divorce attorney the better. Any clues on how one forgets this type of behavior? Anyone care to venture a guess on this one?