to all of you who supported me so much last summer and fall- an update. I'm sorry to report that despite my best efforts, my marriage will soon be over. I'm happy to report that, despite that fact, I am feeling strong and happy and really good about myself. We are working with a mediator, and that is going extremely well. He is being more than fair with me and the kids. I thought I might start spending some time here again, now that I feel healthy enough to maybe help someone the way you guys helped me. Now, can someone remind me how to put a paragraph break in a post???? LOL!!!

Sorry to hear you bad news, and glad to hear your good news.

Welcome back!

(Oh, just hit <enter> after a paragraph and leave a blank space... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> )

That doesn't seem to work for me, and I'm pretty sure this happened before, and if I could just locate it, I know the answer is rolling around my little brain somewhere, but thanks!

Oh well, for now, pardon my run on paragraphs!!

Rotfl!!!!! It just doensn't work in preview. Oy vey!!!!!!

Hey Rap,

Good to hear from you. Sorry about the M. Glad to hear that he is being fair to you and the children.

Sure would like to chat again. I am sooo proud of you. I think about you often. It is good to see yourself in a stronger place.

My old e-mail went belly up (too many MB e-mails - LOL!!) . So here is my new addy. MBOrchid@hotmail.com

Write or call. I put out an MB APB on you and several other old timers. Thanks for letting us know how you are doing. Hey listen, Redhat, PI and I had lunch a few weeks ago. Maybe we can get together for lunch sometime!?!??!?

Take care,
L.

Orchid!!! Good to hear from you!! Made a note of your email, and will write soon, promise. As for lunch, I'd love that. Life is a little nuts right now, but I'll fill you in via email as soon as I can slow down a little.

I am in a much better place, indeed. And, for anyone out there, work this program!! It may not have saved my marriage, but it did not fail me!! I can sit happy in the knowledge that I DID EVERYTHING I COULD to make this thing work. WH refused to stop contact with OW, and by the time he asked me for a divorce, it really didn't even hurt (all that much). My love bank was nearly empty, and I was ready to move on. I feel good about every effort that I made, so I have no regrets, no "what ifs" in my mind. I believe that he has many, but that is no longer my problem. I hope he one day finds something resembling the peace that I have found. I credit the Marriage Builder program and for me, prayer, prayer and more prayer. So, even if you don't have reconcilliation, the effort is worth it. I can face the world (and the woman in the mirror) knowing that I gave it 100%. So, hang in there!! Plan A, Plan B!!!!! It works- it may not work for your marriage, but it will work for YOU!!!

Wow Rap,

I nominate you the MB Poster Girl of the month!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I will await your call.

take care,
L.