I found Out 11 Years Later - 03/19/06 06:16 PM
I see there is someone on here that was told by his wife she had an ONS 10 years ago. On Oct 20/05 I came accross some information that my H had two ONS (that I have proof of) i now feel there is a good chance there could of been more. One was when our daughter was 4 and the other when I was 4 months pregant with our son.
I was & still am totally devistated. He was going out of town the night I found out and I ask him that night if he ever cheated on me he said no why? Always being concerned about his feelings I said no more till he came home on the Monday. Meanwhile I was like a totally sombe, like I was ran over by a truck! I spoke to a counselor right away.
He came in about 2am Mon. I went to work in the morning and he was never coming to work. Which was unusual because he would be in around 10am. I come home from work at 1pm and he was coming up from the basement (not sure what he was doing down there). When I confronted him he totally denided it & as the conversation went on said that I had cheated on him. This is so far from the truth I would never hurt someone that way, I would leave him before I every would destroy his world that way.
He wouldn't confuse till I pull out the proof and showed it to him on paper. Thats when he started crying and trying to hold me and asking me if I would go with someone to talk to with him. At that point I told him to go talk to someone on his own. I find it so funny as he had no details wasn't in our town but didn't know what town it was in who it was with who was with him at the time.
I was tryin to leave to go back to work & he would let me. I told him to let me go & pull yourself together. I had to get up after the morning I found out, get kids off to school, & go to work so don't sit there and tell me your quiting work & not going back.
I was the one who had my heart ripped out of me, not to mention put my life was put at risk, & the chance of a child showing up at our door 4 years younger than our daughter or the same age as our son.
I had so much trust in this guy & now it is like I don't even know who he is.
Mar 20 it will be 5 months & I am still with him.
For how long I don't know, at any given minute I can snap & I will be gone.
I still drive places and when I arrive I don't even know how I got there.
The visions are always in my mind. I look at him like I just hate him!
What am I doing here still. Am I just being taken for a fool?
WHY AM I STILL HERE?
I have so many unanswered questions, to the so many lies!
Any advise out there?
This may be over for him but it is still so new for me!
Thanks for listening I really needed this.
I was & still am totally devistated. He was going out of town the night I found out and I ask him that night if he ever cheated on me he said no why? Always being concerned about his feelings I said no more till he came home on the Monday. Meanwhile I was like a totally sombe, like I was ran over by a truck! I spoke to a counselor right away.
He came in about 2am Mon. I went to work in the morning and he was never coming to work. Which was unusual because he would be in around 10am. I come home from work at 1pm and he was coming up from the basement (not sure what he was doing down there). When I confronted him he totally denided it & as the conversation went on said that I had cheated on him. This is so far from the truth I would never hurt someone that way, I would leave him before I every would destroy his world that way.
He wouldn't confuse till I pull out the proof and showed it to him on paper. Thats when he started crying and trying to hold me and asking me if I would go with someone to talk to with him. At that point I told him to go talk to someone on his own. I find it so funny as he had no details wasn't in our town but didn't know what town it was in who it was with who was with him at the time.
I was tryin to leave to go back to work & he would let me. I told him to let me go & pull yourself together. I had to get up after the morning I found out, get kids off to school, & go to work so don't sit there and tell me your quiting work & not going back.
I was the one who had my heart ripped out of me, not to mention put my life was put at risk, & the chance of a child showing up at our door 4 years younger than our daughter or the same age as our son.
I had so much trust in this guy & now it is like I don't even know who he is.
Mar 20 it will be 5 months & I am still with him.
For how long I don't know, at any given minute I can snap & I will be gone.
I still drive places and when I arrive I don't even know how I got there.
The visions are always in my mind. I look at him like I just hate him!
What am I doing here still. Am I just being taken for a fool?
WHY AM I STILL HERE?
I have so many unanswered questions, to the so many lies!
Any advise out there?
This may be over for him but it is still so new for me!
Thanks for listening I really needed this.