Do I stay or do I go? - 01/28/09 04:15 PM
I just very recently found out that my husband of 18 years had a long time affair that he says ended last January but I know that he tried to rekindle it this past November. He claims that it was only physical. But it went on and on and on. I have always been very insecure and did find him looking at dating sites online about 4 years ago. He cried and cried and really acted as if he wanted my forgiveness. I truly believed him and we worked through it together. We went through marriage seminars and I really thought our marriage was going very well. I just found out that the affair was going on this whole time. During this time, we had great talks and times together. Now it all seems like a lie. The OW's boyfriend is the one who broke the news to me. That is when my husband admitted to the A. He claims he does not want to lose me or his family. He claims that I mean more to him than anything in the world. I am seeking God's guidance in knowing what to do but I am going crazy waiting for an answer.
I am feeling the exact same feelings as others who have just learned the horrible truth. I feel as if I am the one working to save this marriage while he gets away with what he has done. I don't want to punish him but I do want justice. I just can't get over how much this hurts. Do you stay with someone who has lied so much or do you leave and get over him...not matter how painful?
I am feeling the exact same feelings as others who have just learned the horrible truth. I feel as if I am the one working to save this marriage while he gets away with what he has done. I don't want to punish him but I do want justice. I just can't get over how much this hurts. Do you stay with someone who has lied so much or do you leave and get over him...not matter how painful?