Stay or Go! - 07/04/00 10:20 AM
Background Me-37 W-30 OM-48<BR>children 4yrs/2yrs...Married 6 <P>Any Advice...I discovered my wife's deciet<BR>in Feb of 2000, actually I have become a pretty good detective. Well anyway I have been dealing with this since then. Now we decided to stay together for the children 2yr,4yrs old. I have been a stay at home father for almost 4 years, so my career is stalled and my worth in the job market is so so. My wife came up with a plan to buy a house and we share the children and live like roomates. The only four positvies I see are 1. the kids have both parents involved in their lives on a fulltime basis 2. gives me time to implement plan a. 3. The OM is apparently leaving the area in a few months. 4. Gives me time to jump start my career. I would just like to get someones oppinion on this. I love my wife, but it is very painful to sit back and watch this affair go on. I Do not want to leave my children so I have agreed to this plan. But nothing is written in stone. Any Thoughts?<BR>Should I stay or Go and save whatever self respect that I have. <P>Lhommesucre Translation (French) <BR>"The Sweetman"<P>P.S. She is not into trying to recommit to the marriage at this point. She told me she is tired of trying and wants a break, also she wants no expectations from either of us<P><BR>[This message has been edited by Lhomme (edited July 04, 2000).]<p>[This message has been edited by Lhomme (edited July 04, 2000).]