Plan A worked, how do I get more action now though - 10/29/08 09:40 PM
Well, it's been months since I was here. After I discovered the affair and we went round and round the usualy denials, everything eventually came out. My snooping paid off, and revealed more than I wanted to know - the affair had turned physical but they had not yet had intercourse. (mostly 2nd stuff)
I confronted the other man and changed my tone in my emails to him, from nasty mean and confrontational to kind and told him that if I hoped he'd take care of her. I guess his guilt took over as he quit his job and changed his cellphone #.
She hasn't heard from him since the first week in August, (this is as per WW's secretary)
the keylogger helped me do a little more snooping which showed the affair has ended.
So now we're trying to get back on track. and this seems to be even harder. She is wearing her ring again and has eliminated all of the big LBs and I have made a larger effort fo quit making my blunder LBs too. I am making every effort to meet her ENs but this is where things stop. She is here for me (as in physically here in the house) but the ENs seem to be going one way mostly.
So how do I ever get her to move forward with the outward expression of her feelings towards me without sounding like I'm asking her how she feels about me or if she ever plan to be physical again without sounding like I'm badgering her for a kiss???
I've heard it said that sex isn't a big deal in relatinoships as long as your getting it - and that seems to be where I'm at now. She hasn't said "I love you" or kissed me since April and we haven't been intimate since last March.
I confronted the other man and changed my tone in my emails to him, from nasty mean and confrontational to kind and told him that if I hoped he'd take care of her. I guess his guilt took over as he quit his job and changed his cellphone #.
She hasn't heard from him since the first week in August, (this is as per WW's secretary)
the keylogger helped me do a little more snooping which showed the affair has ended.
So now we're trying to get back on track. and this seems to be even harder. She is wearing her ring again and has eliminated all of the big LBs and I have made a larger effort fo quit making my blunder LBs too. I am making every effort to meet her ENs but this is where things stop. She is here for me (as in physically here in the house) but the ENs seem to be going one way mostly.
So how do I ever get her to move forward with the outward expression of her feelings towards me without sounding like I'm asking her how she feels about me or if she ever plan to be physical again without sounding like I'm badgering her for a kiss???
I've heard it said that sex isn't a big deal in relatinoships as long as your getting it - and that seems to be where I'm at now. She hasn't said "I love you" or kissed me since April and we haven't been intimate since last March.