Can you go from B to A? - 11/12/02 10:28 PM
I'm new to these boards but I had read the How to Survive an Affair book. I didn't really grasp the concept of Plan A very well and my WH had already moved out. I unsuccessfully did plan A and then moved to plan B several weeks ago.
Since then I've been reading all of these posts and determined that in my anger and impatience to get my H back, I had not been really in a plan A but really went straight to a plan B after a lot of craziness.
My question is, can you go back to a plan A or have I really screwed up by going to plan B too fast? My H seems willing to talk to me and spend limited time with me as long as I don't ask him questions about our future, the OW, etc.
If it is possible to go back to a plan A, how is it possible to keep your head from going to the place where you realize you've been betrayed beyond belief.
Also, I'm pregnant and the baby is due in January (this happened prior to the A and may have been a contributing factor). My H and the OW had only known each other 3 weeks before the A began and they were discovered the first night of sexual contact by OW's H.
Also, is it true what they say that most affairs last only 6 mths once exposed? When this first happened, the idea of 6 mths seemed like forever. Now it's not seeming so bad, but when I read the posts it looks like these things can go on A VERY LONG TIME.
Since then I've been reading all of these posts and determined that in my anger and impatience to get my H back, I had not been really in a plan A but really went straight to a plan B after a lot of craziness.
My question is, can you go back to a plan A or have I really screwed up by going to plan B too fast? My H seems willing to talk to me and spend limited time with me as long as I don't ask him questions about our future, the OW, etc.
If it is possible to go back to a plan A, how is it possible to keep your head from going to the place where you realize you've been betrayed beyond belief.
Also, I'm pregnant and the baby is due in January (this happened prior to the A and may have been a contributing factor). My H and the OW had only known each other 3 weeks before the A began and they were discovered the first night of sexual contact by OW's H.
Also, is it true what they say that most affairs last only 6 mths once exposed? When this first happened, the idea of 6 mths seemed like forever. Now it's not seeming so bad, but when I read the posts it looks like these things can go on A VERY LONG TIME.