Want divorce but afraid of losing the kids - 04/14/05 03:44 PM
I am a verbally abused male, probably for most of our 12 years of marriage. I have wanted out of my marriage for a while now, but have stayed due to kids. I have not stayed together because I think that it is better for the kids to be in a 2 parent family no matter what, I have stayed together because I am very very afraid of the alternative. The alternative being that she gets custody of the kids and I only get visitation. I could not live with this arrangement nor could my kids, especially my little boy. My relationship with my kids is very strong, we spend a lot of time together, mostly for the purpose of being away from my ever angry wife where we can be ourselves and have fun. We(my kids and I) have a great time together but my wife always gets down on me at every chance she gets. This has been going on for several years, but I do not know how much longer I can continue this way. I can barely breath anymore in my own house, she justs criticizes and berates for everything and anything. I am totally drained and it is starting to effect the very thing I cherish the most, my relationship and time with my kids.
I want out of this marriage and away from my wife's ill will very badly , but I will not get divorced unless I can get custody of my kids.
How can I leave my wife and still keep custody of the kids? It seems the odds are extremely stacked against me.
I want out of this marriage and away from my wife's ill will very badly , but I will not get divorced unless I can get custody of my kids.
How can I leave my wife and still keep custody of the kids? It seems the odds are extremely stacked against me.