advice needed - 05/30/06 03:13 AM
I NEED SOMEONE TO GIVE ME ADVICE ,I AM CURRENTLY GOING THRU A SEPERATION PROCESS WITH MY WIFE, WE HAVE HAVING ISSUES FOR OVER A YEAR NOW AS IT WAS EVIDENT THAT WE RUSHED INTO GETTING MARRIED BT LATER FOUND OUT THAT WE ARE NOT MEANT FOR EACH OTHER
OUR PROBLEM STEMS FROM THE FACT THAT I HAVE A SON AND AN AGED MOTHER TO TAKE CARE OF,SHE KNEW THIS BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED AND DID NOT COMPLAIN BUT ALL OF A SUDDEN ,SHE NOW STARTED NAGGING AND MAKING ISSUES OUT OF IT,WE STOPPED HAVING SEX LIKE 4 MONTHS AGO WHEN I ACCIDENTALLY FOUND OUT THAT SHE WAS BUYING FERTILITY DRUGS AND DID NOT LET ME KNOW,I STUMBLED OVER HER EMAIL WHEN SHE FORGOT TO CLOSE IT WHEN I GOT HOME, WHAT I SAW WAS SHOCKING, WE ARE STILL LIVING TOGETHER UNDER THE SAME ROOF AND HERE SHE WAS ,ON A PAID SUBSCRIPTION WEBSITE WITH HER PICTURES AND TALKING TO VARIOUS MEN AND TELLING THEM SHE WAS DIVORCED,THAT WAS THE LAST STRAW, AND WE DECIDED TO SEPERATE AND MOVE AHEAD.
THERE ARE SOME ISSUES THAT I WILL NEED ADVICE FOR,SHE HAS A HOUSE BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED AND EVER SINCE WE MARRIED ,I HAVE BEEN PAYING THE MORTGAGE ON THE HOUSE EVEN THOUGH THE HOUSE IS IN HER NAME ,I DID NOT MIND BECAUSE I WENT INTO THE MARRIAGE IN GOOD FAITH.
WHILE DISCUSSING SEPERATION ISSUES,CERTAIN THING CAME UP THAT BOTHERED ME, I KNEW SHE HAS CREDIT CARD DEBT IN HER NAME AND ALL THE CARD WERE USED BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED AND WHICH I HAVE BEEN HELPING HER PAY OFF , BUT NOW SHE IS SAYING THAT SINCE WE ARE MARRIED THAT ALL HER DEBT BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED WILL HAVE TO BE SHARED EQUAL EVEN THOUGH WE WERE NOT MARRIED WHEN SHE GOT THE BILLS AND THAT I CANNOT LAY CLAIM TO HER HOUSE SINCE THE HOUSE IS NOT IN HERE NAME, WHAT DO I DO, I CANT AFFORD A LAWYER RIGHT NOW ,SHE IS THREATHENING ME THAT SHE KNOWS HOUSE THE AMERICAN SYSTEM WORKS IN FAVOUR OF WOMEN DURING DIVORCE AND ESPECIALLY SINCE I AM NOT AN AMERICAN CITIZEN, SOMEONE SHOULD KINDLY SHED ME SOME LIGHT
THANKS
A LONELY MAN
OUR PROBLEM STEMS FROM THE FACT THAT I HAVE A SON AND AN AGED MOTHER TO TAKE CARE OF,SHE KNEW THIS BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED AND DID NOT COMPLAIN BUT ALL OF A SUDDEN ,SHE NOW STARTED NAGGING AND MAKING ISSUES OUT OF IT,WE STOPPED HAVING SEX LIKE 4 MONTHS AGO WHEN I ACCIDENTALLY FOUND OUT THAT SHE WAS BUYING FERTILITY DRUGS AND DID NOT LET ME KNOW,I STUMBLED OVER HER EMAIL WHEN SHE FORGOT TO CLOSE IT WHEN I GOT HOME, WHAT I SAW WAS SHOCKING, WE ARE STILL LIVING TOGETHER UNDER THE SAME ROOF AND HERE SHE WAS ,ON A PAID SUBSCRIPTION WEBSITE WITH HER PICTURES AND TALKING TO VARIOUS MEN AND TELLING THEM SHE WAS DIVORCED,THAT WAS THE LAST STRAW, AND WE DECIDED TO SEPERATE AND MOVE AHEAD.
THERE ARE SOME ISSUES THAT I WILL NEED ADVICE FOR,SHE HAS A HOUSE BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED AND EVER SINCE WE MARRIED ,I HAVE BEEN PAYING THE MORTGAGE ON THE HOUSE EVEN THOUGH THE HOUSE IS IN HER NAME ,I DID NOT MIND BECAUSE I WENT INTO THE MARRIAGE IN GOOD FAITH.
WHILE DISCUSSING SEPERATION ISSUES,CERTAIN THING CAME UP THAT BOTHERED ME, I KNEW SHE HAS CREDIT CARD DEBT IN HER NAME AND ALL THE CARD WERE USED BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED AND WHICH I HAVE BEEN HELPING HER PAY OFF , BUT NOW SHE IS SAYING THAT SINCE WE ARE MARRIED THAT ALL HER DEBT BEFORE WE GOT MARRIED WILL HAVE TO BE SHARED EQUAL EVEN THOUGH WE WERE NOT MARRIED WHEN SHE GOT THE BILLS AND THAT I CANNOT LAY CLAIM TO HER HOUSE SINCE THE HOUSE IS NOT IN HERE NAME, WHAT DO I DO, I CANT AFFORD A LAWYER RIGHT NOW ,SHE IS THREATHENING ME THAT SHE KNOWS HOUSE THE AMERICAN SYSTEM WORKS IN FAVOUR OF WOMEN DURING DIVORCE AND ESPECIALLY SINCE I AM NOT AN AMERICAN CITIZEN, SOMEONE SHOULD KINDLY SHED ME SOME LIGHT
THANKS
A LONELY MAN