She asked for a separation...is it too late? - 08/06/07 05:58 AM
I don't want to even try to cover all of the things that have gone wrong lately. We've both been faithful so that's one thing that is not an issue. We have four kids and were high-school sweekhearts and have been married for almost 19 years.
I have ADD and don't take my meds regularly. I should and she wants me to but doesn't want to baby sit me and make me take them. The problem is that ADD people tend not to take them, it's kind of a catch-22. The ADD has lead to some financial issues but I'm working on them. She doen't see any of the financae but we are catching up. She thinks its because I don't want to change that I continue to do this.
I brought up counseling for us, which we've done in the past. She's not ready.
Right now she's in a situation where she needs to see some changes and commitment in me before she can try to meet my needs.
We have agreed on a 30 day separation. We're going to alternate days at the house based on work schedule. At the end of the 30 days, we'll assess where we are at.
My question is, is it too late. Is this her way of letting me go? She said she's scared that at the end I may realize that I'm happier without her. We have the same fears. I think she'll realize that I make her unhappy.
Insight anyone?
I have ADD and don't take my meds regularly. I should and she wants me to but doesn't want to baby sit me and make me take them. The problem is that ADD people tend not to take them, it's kind of a catch-22. The ADD has lead to some financial issues but I'm working on them. She doen't see any of the financae but we are catching up. She thinks its because I don't want to change that I continue to do this.
I brought up counseling for us, which we've done in the past. She's not ready.
Right now she's in a situation where she needs to see some changes and commitment in me before she can try to meet my needs.
We have agreed on a 30 day separation. We're going to alternate days at the house based on work schedule. At the end of the 30 days, we'll assess where we are at.
My question is, is it too late. Is this her way of letting me go? She said she's scared that at the end I may realize that I'm happier without her. We have the same fears. I think she'll realize that I make her unhappy.
Insight anyone?