This is why I have been in this marriage for that long is because of difference of opinion about divorce. Some say it's a sin and others say it is not.
Divorce is not the sin, it's the hardness of the heart that leads to the divorce that is the sin..
No one have an answer for me as to how to make the pain go away when my husband hits or push me.
First, are you and your husband a member of a church body? And if you are, does your pastor and/or elders know your husband hits and pushes you?
if not, why not? Why haven't you told them? (they won't know to confront him if YOU don't go to them and let them know whats going on.)
if they do, then why aren't THEY talking to him about his sin?
I can not make my husband leave the other woman and come to me.
Your right, you can't, nor can the pastors and elders, but they can confront him..which is their responsibility.
What do I do? Continue to let him do this?
Nothing says you can not seperate yourself from this man, and his abuse..IF he is hitting and pushing you...call the police..let them take him to jail--and do not back down when he begs you to drop the charges..
What if this happens to me?
Then don't go back..even if the church says to...let them know that you will not go back unless they can assure you that he will not hit or push you again..as you are seeking them to help him deal with his sin..
What good is it if I am keeping my vow to love him and he is not keeping his vow to love me?
It does not sound like your husband is a Christian, but if he's claiming he is, then contact YOUR pastor and elders and ask them to confront him in his sin..as is their responsibility to their flock..if they refuse to do so, ask them WHY they refuse to address him concerning this matter? why do they refuse to help save a man's life from destruction??
The Bible say that the husband is to love his wife as Jesus loves the church. Jesus do not abuse his church so why should I continue to tolerate my husband abusing me?
you shouldn't..
Until you have walked a mile in my shoes and the other people shoes who are going through physical, verbal, mental abuse...I don't see how a person can judge those of us who have no other choice but to divorce.
There are others choices, seperating from him and not filing for divorce IS an option..If he refuses to repent from his sin and wants to leave..LET HIM LEAVE!!!! Just as the Bible say..if an unbeliever chooses to leave let them leave..
I know for a fact that some churches turn their backs on people who are separated or divorced. Where is the love that the church teach and preach about?
Ask that to the pastors of those churches..
Why are there some of us who are excluded?
Again, ask the pastors of THOSE Churches..
How can a Christian serve Jesus 100% when his/her spouse is constantly beating or nagging?
well, many Christians serve Jesus even when their spouse nags them. However, if a Christian is constantly being beaten, then they need to use the laws of the land that have been set in place and have the person beating them arrested and if need be put in jail, those are the legal conquences for beating a spouse..and the church should still confront the person concerning their sin..if they don't..ask the pastor WHY they won't!!!
I don't mean to offend anyone but when is enough, enough?
The first time he hit or pushed you..