what can I do? - 05/29/08 11:50 PM
Hi, I am new here and never really thought I would find myself in this situation. I have known my wife for almost 4 years and have been married for less than one. We have a two year old son who I love dearly. We have been having problems for quite some time and its mainly been my fault. I took her for granted and didn't show her how much I truly love her. She gave me plenty of chances to prove it to her but I was young and imature. Around two months ago we decided to get separated and I was under the impression that we would eventually work things out. Well, just recently I found out that she is starting to have feelings for someone else and has actually slept with this new person and she admitted that she made a mistake and regreted sleeping with him but she continues to see him. She said that they have been talking for a few months and that he makes her happy and that for once in her life her heart feels happy. I dont really buy this because I know that we were happy at one point. We have gone through alot together and I feel like this new person is just filling her emotional needs that I should've filled.
Since the separation I have tried to show her how much I have changed and how much I love her but she wont budge. I even went to counceling and when it was her turn to go she said that the councelor cancelled and that she needed to reschedule, which I didnt buy it but I gave her the benefit of the doubt. I have tried so hard and cried so much but I feel like I am fighting an uphill battle. I dont want to let her go because I am afraid that she wont come back. I am trying to get her to go to counceling but she says there is no point and that she has already made her descision. What can I do to save my marriage? I know deep in my heart that this is the woman that I want to be with.
Since the separation I have tried to show her how much I have changed and how much I love her but she wont budge. I even went to counceling and when it was her turn to go she said that the councelor cancelled and that she needed to reschedule, which I didnt buy it but I gave her the benefit of the doubt. I have tried so hard and cried so much but I feel like I am fighting an uphill battle. I dont want to let her go because I am afraid that she wont come back. I am trying to get her to go to counceling but she says there is no point and that she has already made her descision. What can I do to save my marriage? I know deep in my heart that this is the woman that I want to be with.