2nd time's a charm? - 07/30/10 06:05 PM
Well, I'm back where I started a year or so ago. I had filed last year because H refused to work on the marriage or stop his abusive behaviour. He then went to counseling, we tried to put things back together and I ended up withdrawing the paperwork in February. Since then, he's backslid on pretty much everything - the only change that's stuck is that he doesn't do overt AO's anymore. But he's still passive-aggressive and treating my DD and me badly, especially when his DD (who has been bullying and abusing my DD for 6+ years) is around.
So after one last attempt to get things turned around, to zero affect and H refusing to even believe we had a serious issue, much less actually changing anything, I have filed again and I won't withdraw the paperwork this time. I forced SD out of the house, and H is desperately trying to find a job so he can move out too.
I'm incredibly sad about all of this, because I can clearly see what it would take to put our M back together, but H refuses to even see it, much less do it. I can't keep on with this, it was tearing my heath apart and damaging my DD.
I almost didn't come back to the MB board because it seems hypocritical when I'm divorcing, but I really believe that the MB concepts are good ones and if I ever get in another serious relationship, I am going to insist that it be MB-based.
So, here I am.
So after one last attempt to get things turned around, to zero affect and H refusing to even believe we had a serious issue, much less actually changing anything, I have filed again and I won't withdraw the paperwork this time. I forced SD out of the house, and H is desperately trying to find a job so he can move out too.
I'm incredibly sad about all of this, because I can clearly see what it would take to put our M back together, but H refuses to even see it, much less do it. I can't keep on with this, it was tearing my heath apart and damaging my DD.
I almost didn't come back to the MB board because it seems hypocritical when I'm divorcing, but I really believe that the MB concepts are good ones and if I ever get in another serious relationship, I am going to insist that it be MB-based.
So, here I am.