My husband moved out 2 years ago, and 12 days later filed for divorce. There was, of course, someone else. To make a long story short, 7 months later he approached me about moving home as a roommate. He didn't have feelings for me, but thought it would be good for the kids and finances. Well, that was what I was waiting to hear--sort of!!! I just knew that in time, things would work out. We dropped the divorce. Two months later, he was gone again. I refiled this time. He was back with the OW again. She had moved on to her next victim but didn't bother telling my husband. He had a terrible time with withdrawal from her when she finally told him. He was finally finished with her by July last year, but it took more time to get over her. By February of this year, I had signed the final papers, and he was stalling. I had refinanced "my" house, and FINALLY gotten over him. I was doing well and FINALLY enjoying myself. I told him that when the divorce was final, I would not be interested in even friendship with him (that's what HE wanted). I was drawing the line. Well, instead, we ended up going to the MB weekend seminar in March. He did a complete turnaround over the weekend. I think that my letting go forced him to realize what he was losing, but he must have been ready for a change deep down, or it wouldn't have happened. I wish I had moved on when he left the first time like everybody kept telling me. I was just emotionally unable to do that at the time. So here we are, working on putting things back together slowly but surely. We're following the guidelines, because the feelings aren't totally there yet, and we want to do it right this time. Hopefully things will work out--we've been together for 20 years. It's only been a month so far, but it's so different this time. He tells me that there's no way we won't make this work. Good luck to you!