help, thinking of calling a hooker - 09/14/01 05:48 AM
After a 6 year marriage my wife has denied me sex for the past month, and hasn't really liked for me to touch her in any manner for the past 3 years. At night she just lays there like a lifeless manaquin while I caress her gently. She does'nt respond to my touch at all. There is no intimacy at all from my standpoint no matter how hard I try to demonstate my love and devotion. And yes, I do pay attention to her at other times other than when we go to bed. She hasn't kissed me in months and only allows me to give her little pecks on the check. She is 42 years old and I am 44. I have asked her repeatedly to go to councilling but she thinks that all councillers are "more messed up than she is". She has not worked for almost 2 years now while I support our family while she goes to school. To make matters worse she has a 27-year old son who has been freeloading at our house since January. He has never offered to pay any rent, utilities, buy any food, or help out with any chores but has plenty of time and money to crusie up and down the road in his new pickup truck. I don't mind him being there, its the freeloading that drives me crazy. Anyway I feel very alone, rejected emotionally and sexually and even abused. I also have a 15-year old son who is a very quiet and well-behaved child but he seems to be a thorn in my wife's side. He tries very hard to get along with her but to no avail. It is to the point where we can't even go grocery shopping without her having an angry outburst and forcing us to leave without our groceries. Perhaps I feel that I am at least entitled to a little gratitude since I have paid all the bills since day one of our marriage and am still paying $75 per month to keep insurance on her 21-year old daughter who doesn't even live with us. This is a second marriage for both of us and she did live with another man for a year prior to the time I met her. I have questioned her as to what was wrong. She says the sky is the limit for my son and his mother is always calling or stopping by to see him. I have been divorced from my x for 9 years now and have absolutely no romantic feelings for her so that can't be a problem. Since my wife started school she has developed her on circle of friends that she is in constant contact with either in person or on the phone. It is starnge that She never has any time for me but can spend hours on the phone. Sorry this is so long! Looking for adivce!