***Llama's Update...It's been a while...*** - 05/16/03 10:44 PM
Hi gang -
It's been quite some time since I last posted. I wanted to write and tell you all who are going through painful divorces that there is a light for you waiting at the end of the dark, gloomy, tunnel.
It's been over a year since my XH left and almost a year since our divorce was final.
1. I'm happy. I think for the duration of my marriage, I was not being honest with myself about my own happiness. I wasn't the best communicator either - which can make things even worse in an already-not-so-good marriage.
2. I've matured. Spiritually and emotionally. I keep reading all the time. I continue to do things for myself - learning and growing. I went back to church - it feels great.
3. I've met a special someone. Will see where the road leads us - outlook is definitely good. Just taking things day by day. I have a whole lifetime ahead of me.
4. Work is great. TAking on much more responsibilities and getting the pats on the back that I deserve! Whoo hoo.
5. Family is great - I'm now even closer to my family. Don't speak to my former in laws anymore. And, although it hurt in the beginning (me and my FMIL were close) I understand now that it's best. I have my own life and my own family.
6. Still going through the annulment process. It's hard work - difficult questions to answer, but it has helped me even more know that I did the right thing.
7. Don't know much about my X. Don't know where he lives, what he does, etc. And, that is ok. I don't really wonder anymore. The bitterness is gone and I hope he finds happiness and peace in his life.
Well, I just wanted to say that things do get better. The saying time heals holds true. My only advice is always continue to work on yourself - although I'm a BS - I wasn't the perfect wife either. I'm learning and growing. I still make mistakes, but I'm recognizing them more now and that's half the battle.
Good luck to everyone here. I'd love to hear from some of you!
Hugs,
Llama
It's been quite some time since I last posted. I wanted to write and tell you all who are going through painful divorces that there is a light for you waiting at the end of the dark, gloomy, tunnel.
It's been over a year since my XH left and almost a year since our divorce was final.
1. I'm happy. I think for the duration of my marriage, I was not being honest with myself about my own happiness. I wasn't the best communicator either - which can make things even worse in an already-not-so-good marriage.
2. I've matured. Spiritually and emotionally. I keep reading all the time. I continue to do things for myself - learning and growing. I went back to church - it feels great.
3. I've met a special someone. Will see where the road leads us - outlook is definitely good. Just taking things day by day. I have a whole lifetime ahead of me.
4. Work is great. TAking on much more responsibilities and getting the pats on the back that I deserve! Whoo hoo.
5. Family is great - I'm now even closer to my family. Don't speak to my former in laws anymore. And, although it hurt in the beginning (me and my FMIL were close) I understand now that it's best. I have my own life and my own family.
6. Still going through the annulment process. It's hard work - difficult questions to answer, but it has helped me even more know that I did the right thing.
7. Don't know much about my X. Don't know where he lives, what he does, etc. And, that is ok. I don't really wonder anymore. The bitterness is gone and I hope he finds happiness and peace in his life.
Well, I just wanted to say that things do get better. The saying time heals holds true. My only advice is always continue to work on yourself - although I'm a BS - I wasn't the perfect wife either. I'm learning and growing. I still make mistakes, but I'm recognizing them more now and that's half the battle.
Good luck to everyone here. I'd love to hear from some of you!
Hugs,
Llama